Self-talk – the things you tell yourself in your mind. The mind chatter that chirps at us all day long can either manifest the life you dream of or the life you can’t wait to escape.
Each of us is where we are because of the decisions we have made. However, how we let the voice in our head narrate that history largely dictates how we feel about the situation.
A Bit About Eckhart Tolle – Emotions
Eckhart Tolle is a spiritual teacher and author who has written extensively about emotions and the role they play in our lives. In his work, Tolle suggests that emotions are a form of energy that can influence our thoughts, behaviors, and experiences. He encourages people to become more aware of their emotions and to learn to manage them in a healthy way.
Tolle believes that emotions are a natural and necessary part of the human experience, but that they can also be a source of suffering if we become overly identified with them. He suggests that people can benefit from learning to observe their emotions rather than being controlled by them.
It is worth noting that while Tolle’s ideas about emotions have been influential and have resonated with many people, they are not necessarily universally accepted by all researchers and practitioners in the field of psychology. Emotions are a complex and multifaceted aspect of human experience, and different people may have different perspectives on how to understand and manage them.
Emotions & the Things You Tell Yourself
Now that we know who Eckhart Tolle is and his position on emotions, let me share with you how the things you tell yourself and emotions work together.
Emotions, being energy, can affect your physical body as they produce chemicals that create reactions in your body. For instance, fear.
When the Things You Tell Yourself Create Fear
Fear is a natural emotional response to a perceived threat or danger. It is triggered by the release of certain chemicals in the body. These chemicals include adrenaline, noradrenaline, and cortisol.
Adrenaline is a hormone produced by the adrenal gland that increases heart rate, blood pressure, and blood sugar levels. These chemicals prepare the body to either fight or flee from a perceived threat.
Noradrenaline, also known as norepinephrine, is a hormone and neurotransmitter that helps regulate the body’s stress response. It plays a role in the fight-or-flight response.
Cortisol is a hormone produced by the adrenal gland that helps regulate the body’s stress response. Often referred to as the “stress hormone”, it is released in higher levels during times of stress or anxiety.
These chemicals play a vital role in helping the body respond to perceived threats. It is important to manage the levels of these chemicals in the body to avoid negative effects on physical and mental health. Prolonged exposure to high levels of stress hormones can have negative impacts on the body. And can generate physical changes such as increased risk of heart disease, immune system dysfunction, and mental health issues. (Like anxiety and depression)
When the Things You Tell Your Self Include Love
Love is a complex emotion that involves many different chemicals in the body. When we feel loved and connected to others, our bodies release a variety of hormones and neurotransmitters that can have positive effects on our physical and mental well-being.
Oxytocin is a hormone and neurotransmitter. It is often referred to as the “love hormone” or “cuddle hormone”. This is because it is released in higher levels during moments of bonding and attachment, such as during sexual activity, childbirth, and breastfeeding. Oxytocin plays a role in social bonding and attachment. And is thought to have positive effects on mood, social behavior, and stress levels.
Serotonin is a neurotransmitter. It is involved in a range of functions, including mood, appetite, sleep, and memory. Often referred to as the “happiness hormone” it is involved in feelings of well-being and happiness.
Endorphins are chemicals produced by the body that act as natural painkillers. They are involved in feelings of pleasure and happiness. When released during physical activity, or in response to social bonding and they contribute to positive social interactions.
Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that is involved in reward, motivation, and pleasure. This is released in response to pleasurable experiences, like love. It is thought to play a role in the formation of romantic attachments.
These chemicals can contribute to feelings of happiness, well-being, and connection when we are loved and feel close to others. It is important to maintain social connections and positive relationships for overall physical and mental well-being.
How to Choose the Things You Tell Yourself
Now that you understand how the body reacts to different emotions. The chemicals that are released. Perhaps you can see how the things you tell yourself about how you feel can create different realities for you.
Be very careful to talk about yourself in a positive way, to yourself. Words are powerful. They also come from your thoughts. This too is why it is so important to control your thoughts. Especially the thoughts you have about yourself, and selfworth.
Marissa Peer shares this suggestion – which I have found invaluable – write these words on the mirrors in your house:
I AM ENOUGH
And then try rephrasing how you perceive situations, so you generate more of the love/happiness hormones and less of the fear/stress hormones.
How to Reframe Your Thoughts to Make Life More Pleasant
There are several ways to reframe your thoughts in order to make life more pleasant:
- 1. Practice gratitude: Focus on the things that you are grateful for, rather than dwelling on negative thoughts or experiences. This can help shift your perspective and make you feel more positive and content.
- 2. Use positive language: Choose words that are positive and uplifting, rather than negative or critical. For example, instead of saying “I can’t do this,” try saying “I’m working on learning how to do this.”
- 3. Practice mindfulness: Pay attention to the present moment, rather than getting caught up in negative thoughts about the past or worrying about the future. This can help you stay grounded and more focused on the here and now.
- 4. Seek support: Talk to someone you trust about your thoughts and feelings. A supportive friend or therapist can help you work through negative thoughts and find more positive ways of thinking.
- 5. Take breaks: Give yourself permission to take breaks from negative thinking. This can help you recharge and come back to your thoughts with a fresh perspective.
By making a conscious effort to reframe your thoughts, you can shift your perspective and make life feel more pleasant and enjoyable.
Meditation to Train Your Brain so the Things You Tell Yourself Have a Positive Impact
Meditation, practiced daily, can train your brain so that the things you tell yourself have a positive impact on your physical wellbeing. Even a few minutes of mindfulness starts the process of changing the pathways. Often, we travel the same mental highways. Which in many cases become ruts of bad thinking.
Certain events in our lives produce a thought that isn’t productive. Something happens that causes us to start thinking negatively. Allowing ourselves to be the victim of the situation rather than the hero. Meditation helps to corral those thoughts in a way that allows you to take a moment to reframe the situation.
The more often you have the love/happiness hormones coursing through your body the better you will feel.