In this empowering episode, host Jill Hart interviews Dawn Long, a passionate advocate for empowering women to become unstoppable. Dawn emphasizes the importance of recognizing and changing thought and generational patterns to lead a more fulfilling life.
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Transcript
Hi and welcome to You World Order Showcase podcast. Today we are speaking with Dawn Long, whose passion is to empower women to become.
Unstoppable. I love that.
She's also the host of your transformational journey, so welcome Dawn to the show.
Thank you for having me on Jill
And yeah, I do talk women into becoming unstoppable.
It's one of the things that I work on and I want to spread that message because we are a whole lot more than what we think we are
Absolutely, absolutely.
And everybody's got something so unique to share.
It's just.
It's so fun.
I know that you interview a.
Lot of coaches on your podcast too, and just.
Hearing everybody's unique story is just like so.
Heart lifting.
It is.
It's definitely I've interviewed quite a few people and one of the interviews I just done actually just released on Wednesday.
And he was formerly incarcerated, and he took his life, turned it around, and now him and his wife have a cafe that is called Frisky Cats Cafe out in California.
And he also just started his own publishing company.
And it's stories like that is why I do what I do is to hear those stories of people coming back from the bottom and being able to show redemption from that.
Yes, yes, that's I love the name.
That's so fun.
But it's an amazing story
So let's hear your story.
How did you get started?
So my story how I got started is.
Because my youngest was incarcerated and I went through a really, really dark period.
And for those of you listening out there, if you have incarcerated loved ones, you understand what I'm talking about.
When it was really the dark night of the soul journey.
And when I realized that there's not that much support for us moms that have loved ones incarcerated, and I was going like, I need to change that, I need to show these women that they can come from where I was.
And if I have to give you a hand, I will grab your hand.
I will pull you up.
And when I realized the lack of that out there, I was going alright.
It's time to change that and to get the story out there of saying, hey Mama, you can go through the hard things and you can come out on the other side and when you come out on the other side.
Not only you are unstoppable, you're also the beacon of hope to other ones around you.
So that's why I'm doing it.
Yeah, you know.
I'm so glad that you.
Are and people being imprisoned
Prison to me was at one point it was supposed to be a deterrent, but these days it's not.
It's just a random punishment that if you don't have a really good lawyer, you're going to jail, and sometimes you'll run into prosecutors that'll just keep.
Putting you back up there, I'll tell you run out of money and then they'll put you in jail.
It's.
A fair and just system anymore you live.
No, it's not.
Around and.
And the fact.
That they just go out of their way to make life miserable for everybody around the incarcerated person.
It's just like it's just a travesty.
It is.
So I'm so glad that you're stepping up and helping these people and.
To be able to navigate things like that because.
And it's definitely been one of the.
Reasons why and to see and to be able to help women and say hey, you can do this.
And I love seeing the looks on their faces when that light bulb moment comes on and that's where breaking generational patterns comes in and doing the inner child work.
And for those of you listening.
If you don't know what breaking generational patterns is about, it's about breaking the past patterns and it may not have anything to do with you in all honesty.
It has to do what was happening in the families in the past and those patterns that we just keep picking up. One I love to use because everybody can identify with this, especially if you're in my age group growing up, we got told money does not grow on trees.
That's a pattern.
And that puts you in a poverty mindset because we're going like, OK, so we have to work really hard for things, in reality.
We don't have to work as hard as what you think you do in order to have a really good life.
And that's what led me to doing that, because now not only are you breaking the patterns of abuse, you're breaking the patterns of.
I was not educated on certain things, breaking that pattern and giving them that ability, that foundation to be able to say, OK, I can start.
Building from that foundation and how you build from that foundation.
Is doing inner child work and I know some people foo foo it.
But it's really important because you're saying and going back and talking to whatever age that you want to go back to.
For me, it was age 4 and I always love to tell people and I think I'm going to put this in a book.
I wanted to be a brain surgeon at the age of 4.
And it was because I knew I could fix people because I knew people were broken.
How a 4
Year old figures that out.
I have no idea, but I did and.
Being able to say, OK, we're going to go back and we're going to take this child's hand and we're going to look at them in the eye
OK.
And we're gonna say it is OK.
I am here to protect you now, and you can stop trying to keep me safe.
Because in reality, that's what we're trying to do.
We're still trying to keep ourselves safe because we may have been raised in environments that was not.
And you did become a brain surgeon, just not the.
And so to speak.
Way the four year old
Yes, I did.
Not the way the four year old probably imagined it, but it might have actually been the way she imagined it.
Yeah, and the only reason I remember that particular tidbit is because my mom told me she had gotten me.
Or Santa Claus had gotten me, but she had really gotten me a chalkboard for Christmas, and I was just in there writing, and she just read it, and she just, like, busted up laughing, you know, because that was, you know, one of the things for parents, you a child that's learning how to write.
And I was.
Just putting all of my thoughts out there.
And she told me about that.
I want to say a good five or six years before she passed away, she told me that story.
And I thought it was hilarious because I was going.
Like how in the world? but now looking at it on a deeper level, on a spiritual level, there was a reason why I was writing that down.
That is so cool.
And again you.
In some ways you have fulfilled that.
It's the.
The putting things.
Out there, they really do come true and you just have to be aware of what's happening in the ebb and flow of things.
Yeah. So
How does the generational patterns thing work?
In terms of.
So how it works is.
It takes the client or the person through what kind of things that they are constantly seeing that they're constantly repeating, whether it be.
So I'm going to use myself as an example.
I used to have what like what I personally call is the negative committee in
My brain.
We have a way of going through the things and saying what if and it's always the negative.
What if what if somebody dies?
What if I lose my job?
What if this thing doesn't turn out right?
And I started noticing before all of everybody started talking about manifestation and how to do all of that and how to really get into your brain i was going like, why am I constantly going for the doomsday?
That's what I call.
That the doomsday why am I constantly doing that?
And I started saying, OK, when I my negative thoughts would start, then I would just flip it and reverse it.
I'd be like, OK, we're not doing this today.
This is what I'm grateful for, and start building that up and start showing gratitude.
And it took a while.
I'm not going to say this is a.
One day fix because it's not.
It took me a good year before I finally had a handle on.
I wasn't constantly thinking negative thoughts.
And my life was really going really well.
It's just.
My past generational trauma that I grew up with is I had a mom.
That, unfortunately, had a harsher mom because they grew up during the time of right after the depression and having to deal with the lack of that and having to deal there was no mental health resources.
If you did have it, they were thrown into.
A mental hospital and experimented on.
And going through all of that family trauma and going through the abuse trauma that happened through the family and through myself, and I was going like, OK, this has to stop.
So I noticed that pattern and I was like, what can I do to break that?
And what can I do to fix it to where it's not happening again?
And I will tell your listeners, once you break those patterns, if you have kids or grandkids, they don't have to worry about that anymore because you broke that.
Yeah, it's such a gift to future generations.
And in a way, it's a gift to past generations if they're still around.
And even if they're not still around, I went through a lot of trauma with my own mom and.
I've reached a point of peace.
It's like I was angry for a lot of years.
At her.
But then I came to the point where it was just like, you know.
It doesn't do any good to be angry.
With her and.
What she did
Made me who I am today.
It would be somebody totally different and that wouldn't.
Probably have benefited me in the long run.
So it's like you can look at all these.
Negative things going on.
And you can think where is me and wait for somebody to rescue you or you can be your own hero and just.
Buckle up and.
Get help and there's lots of help around.
Right now there's people like you out there, Dawn, that are offering.
Offering to guide people along a path to help them.
Really empower them to make a difference in the world in their own lives.
But when you change your life, the ripple effect is tremendous.
Yes, it is, and it's one of those.
Aha moments when you're realized the things that you can actually change, nobody.
Can make you happy, but you nobody is in charge of your life but you.
And even though we've may have had an upbringing that wasn't ideal.
And I'm like you, if I hadn't have gone through that.
I probably wouldn't be where I'm at today because I did go through that.
I can now understand where others are coming from.
I could understand where my mom was coming from, and I believe when you start understanding where your parents and your grandparents come from, that is true growth.
And it will be able to show you the way out of the things that you were in.
And I'm not gonna say that you're not going to backslide because some of us do this whole healing journey.
Of breaking patterns and doing inner child work takes a long time.
I've literally been doing this now for over 15 years and I think this year is the first year where I really feel like I've actually got it together.
It does take time and it just starts with like one decision and one little spot.
You make a change in one spot.
And then you start getting a little bit of traction with that.
You know, maybe it's just recognizing every time you're having negative thought patterns, which is it's totally I'm going to say it's normal, it's not necessarily natural.
But it's the.
Way we have been raised, we run these.
Thought loops through our head and we beat ourselves up and we want things to be different than they are and we just.
Run those loops, run those loops, run those loops.
But when you start.
To recognize running those loops change really substantial.
Change can happen quickly.
It can.
And one of my favorite ways of doing that is if you find yourself with negative thoughts, get a piece of paper, write them all down, what I call a brain dump, do a brain dump.
Don't read through it what you're going to do is you're going to crumple that paper up, and then you're gonna.
Throw it in the fire.
I love that technique because number one, you're seeing what is going away, it's turning into ashes.
It is no longer benefitting from you or a phrase.
I just heard the other day. Unsubscribe
From that thought.
Unsubscribe from that thought pattern.
And once you unsubscribe from it.
Then you can subscribe to the thought pattern that actually brings you joy fulfills you, brings you.
positivity and allows you to see things that you normally wouldn't see, and I'll tell you what the universe will bring it to you universe God, however you want to put it however you manifest it.
It will come to you and your life, turns into so much more, and you'll start getting a whole lot of different things coming in the path of your life, like a different career or a different thing that you're wanting to work on, or a passion project that you have found is all of those things so wrapped up in.
To getting rid of all of the things and working on yourself that you really understand that holy cow.
You can shine and there's nobody to stop you.
And when you look at when you're busy looking at all the negative things, you miss all the beautiful things that are coming your way, you just you're.
You just get so absorbed in that mindset.
But when you turn that mindset off.
Things just like.
Magically appear.
Yeah, you become aware of what's around you.
You become more present.
They talk about being in the moment, but you can be in the moment when your thoughts aren't racing around.
Trying to drag you down and it's just it's.
It's a beautiful thing you can appreciate just sitting outside and putting your.
Feet on the grass.
And smelling the.
Air and watching the wind whistle through the.
Leaves it's like.
There's so many beautiful moments every day.
That we miss?
Yeah, because we're busy worrying or doing the what ifs on the negatives side.
So what the what kind of ****?
Is and I was going like I'm done.
With this shift house.
I'm done with it and I love going outside.
That's usually my evening ritual when I come home from work, so those of you that are listening.
Even if it's just outside your apartment complex and you're by patio.
Go put your feet in the grass.
It will change how you feel so much.
And I was just doing that the other day and I was really in awe because we live on five acres and there's a really cute little spot that I love to go sit down.
Get through my day.
And I love that spot because we have deer that love to come through.
And every so often, when I sit down there.
I see these deer and I was going.
I see those different signs and to see nature, it's all inspiring what it can be out your back door and once you start noticing those things like for me one of my signs I asked for was rainbows.
I have seen so many freaking rainbows this last week and 1/2 it is insane.
And that is what letting go of the negative will do for you.
Because you'll realize you can have the life you want.
I was just thinking about that on the drive when I was thinking about this podcast.
I really went through a list of things.
That I have asked for that I've received.
All because I've done the work.
I've gotten 4 different jobs that I asked for received them.
I received a car I asked for.
I received the House that I've wanted along with the land.
And the list just goes on and on and it's all because I've done that in our work to be able to do that.
And if you're thinking this is overwhelming, start with one really small thing.
To start building that foundation, let's say pick a rainbow or pick your favorite number.
I'm a numbers person, so I constantly see repeating numbers all the time, so throw it out there and you'll be shocked at what comes your way.
Going to look for them too, you know?
Yes, you do.
You got to be intentional about it.
And sometimes weird things will happen.
Like I can remember one time when I was out in the backyard and I wanted rain and I was talking to the clouds and God or whatever you want to.
Call it and.
It made it rain just.
Over the spot I was in.
I mean, it was enough that I felt the drops.
And I knew that it was only raining in like a 5 foot radius.
And I laughed.
I thought it was hilarious.
That's all fine.
That is so fun.
And I feel trees.
Because I just talked to them, they I had this pear tree that I loved and you could have relationships with trees.
I know.
Oh yes.
It sounds silly, but they they're just amazing beings.
They're trees, but they have interactions with each other and they have offspring and they care for their offspring and they do listen to you and they.
Oh yeah.
This pear tree it had blight and it was it was really in bad shape and I just talked to it.
It's like please heal.
And I talked to it every day and the next season there wasn't any blight on it still standing.
That is freaking awesome.
This was like 6 years ago.
That is awesome.
I love trees too, and I can.
I can pretty much agree with you on that.
Trees have souls.
Trees spirits
It was.
And it's been a while they they'll wave.
At you.
If you pay attention.
I go out.
Every night and sit in my backyard under this Linden tree and they have the best, most fragrant flowers in the world that it's.
That's their signature thing.
This tree smells amazing
In the spring early summer, it's just like.
Takes your breath away anyway, so we sit out there and then we have these Poplar trees which have kind of big, big leaves that shimmer in the wind.
Ohh yeah.
And it's just like it just watching.
The glitter show.
Sit there for like an hour.
And a half because it's just like.
It is.
Bare feet in the grass.
Yeah, it's actually in its.
It's all part of your healing as a person is to take time for that self-care. If you're not, put your foot in the grass type person.
At least give yourself some time to sit outside.
Take your favorite book, take your favorite beverage, whatever it is, take that time and when you take that time for yourself, you give yourself that time to destress you give yourself time to percolate all of the things that you're learning.
And you're also giving yourself time to say, what do I want to work on or what is in my future?
You know, start dreaming.
Dream big.
It's just like we just literally had.
A one point five $1.586 billion lottery that somebody won in Florida. And of course, you bet I went and bought a ticket and I dreamed that was.
That was the whole thing.
Whether I won it or not, it was the dream of dreaming to acquire.
That amount of cash flow.
And all you have to do is allow yourself to do that.
Do you want to be a writer?
Start dreaming about that.
What do you want to do?
Do you want to have a passion project?
Start dreaming about that.
And when you allow yourself to dream, there are so many good things that will come towards you and for you that you're going to like, where did this stuff come from?
Because you made it into an existence.
Yeah, it's, it's.
All starts in your head, every everything that exists started in someone's imagination.
Exactly everything that the thing that we're doing now with zoom and webcams and computers.
Somebody dreamed that and bless them for doing that, because now I get to have fun talking to other people and I absolutely love it.
Around the world.
It around the world.
Globaly I've talking.
I have talked to.
People from Australia I have talked to people from Canada.
I have talked to people from New Zealand.
I have talked to people from Africa.
Britain everywhere it is amazing that we can have this real time connectivity and it's because somebody dreamed it.
I can remember when I was pretty young, I must have been about 11 or 12
We went to a Science Museum and there were.
These vision phones
They were so cool.
We, we.
Each stood on.
The other side of the cabinet and we could see each other like on television as we were talking.
Just like zoom.
Right.
I think of that when I.
I'm on videos
That is freaking awesome.
It's the technology has.
Been around for quite.
A while.
Yeah, but it's just now I'm like.
I'm old enough to remember the phone systems bell telephone when that was like the only thing.
That you could have.
And you pay dearly for long distance and God help you if you lived in Washington state, because every county was a different.
Prefix and it was a long distance call.
I mean you could literally be calling 3 miles away from you and they were going to charge you an arm and a.
Leg cause you.
Know long distance was really expensive in.
Ohh wow.
Those days. Oh yeah, and.
And then along came cell phones and.
Well, first they broke up the.
The telephone thing and now I have kids that don't even know what.
Yeah, they had to.
A home phone looks like.
I was fixing to.
Say I think by the time my kids came.
Along, I don't think.
We had the wire or the cordless phone.
We didn't have the wall
phone, so yeah, I'm dating myself too.
But it's amazing to see the technology leaps that we've had since the time that we were kids to what you have access to now, I never would have thought I would be able to literally hold a computer in my hand.
I didn't even know what computers were until I went to middle school and we were doing things on those cassette tapes we were learning how to write code.
On cassette tape.
And now look at us.
Yeah, yeah, that just in the palm of your.
Hand and everyone takes it for granted.
Yeah, exactly.
But it started with someone's imagination.
It sure did, and it and if
You like to read or understand more about imagination.
The person I absolutely love to read is Neville Goddard.
And Florence Scovel Shinn
Those two are the best.
There is actually a YouTube where I follow Scott.
I cannot remember his last name.
But he is really good at diving in to those books and giving you the detail and the why behind it.
And I tell you what that is when I realized.
How I could start changing the way I think and the words that you say going back to the breaking the patterns in the inner child, the words that you say hold so much power.
And how you speak to yourself, how you talk to others is all about that power. You can play.
The victim role and stay in that victim role.
Or you can say you know what I take back my power from how you speak.
There's a reason why this little sign behind me.
This is the reason why I keep that up there and it's because it's talking about thinking positively.
And that is why I keep it up there, because all of these things that we do and enjoy ourselves and encourage and relax, that is part of rearranging and redoing your life.
And I am not telling you, you have to go big or go home.
Some of our purpose for some of our lives.
Is just to be here just to talk to other people.
It might be just to be here just to talk to a person randomly on the street that you didn't know that you were going to talk to that day and make.
Them feel better.
It doesn't have to be like Tony Robbins or Les Brown, although that's my goal.
And I absolutely adore those people that can get on stage and inspire people to really change their lives, and that in the core of it is what I want to leave you with today is I want you to be able to look at yourself.
Change how you think.
And make yourself happy.
Grow in your own personal growth the way that you want to grow.
It doesn't have to be me or Jill or anybody else telling you how to do it, although we would love for you to come join us because we have the tools in our toolbox to give you and once you get those tools, nobody else can take those away from you.
I promise you that.
And once you have the tools, then you can help others.
It's like put on the mask 1st and then help the person.
Next to you.
Exactly. I didn't start out.
Changing myself because I didn't think I would be able to help anybody else.
And then when I realized that there are so many out there that needs to hear my story, and I'm telling y'all what I got
To be a co-author.
In the book of it is called relentless, empowering through adversity.
And the main author is Doctor Nelson Baltazar and there's twenty of us in this book.
And to read the stories that people have overcome, some of the worst atrocities in their life.
And to be able to get those words out there so people know, hey, I've been through this and I can help you is immense, ladies and gentlemen, you have a story out there to tell whether you want to do it on stage or write a book or come on a.
Podcast or.
Just talk to the people that you know that when you walk past that, your heartstrings just pulling on to talk to you.
Do that.
There is a reason why some of us have went through some of these atrocities, and let's don't make it.
A useless thing that we went through.
Right.
Help each other.
It's.
Really, the bottom line
So how can people get in touch with you Dawn?
So I am all over social media and that is a good question.
You can find me on Spotify.
I have a podcast called Your Transformation Journey.
You can find me wherever podcasts are.
I'm also on YouTube, so it's also your transformation journey.
I am on Facebook and I also have a website called Dawn Long.
Coach dot com and you can find me in those areas as well. And I'm also on TikTok.
I'm getting a little bit proficient or better at TikTok, so we'll wait and see how that goes.
It's kind of a different sort.
Of social media.
Yes it is, but it is also fun.
It is well, thank you so much for joining us today and we'll be sure and put all those links in the notes for the show.
I appreciate it and I appreciate you having me on and I don't know if you have a sign off, but if you would allow me to do a sign off because I love, so whether you know it or not.
Go for it
Whether you believe it or not.
You're loved.
You are the beacon of hope and you are unstoppable. Bye