Traci Bateman – Crafting a Life of Transformative Bliss

In this motivating podcast episode, Traci Bateman, a resilient life and health coach, shares her inspiring journey and discusses her impactful 12-week coaching sessions, empowering clients to achieve diverse goals and fostering positive transformations.

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Hi and, welcome to the You World Order Showcase podcast. Today we have with us Traci Bateman. Traci is a life, health and transformational coach. Actually she's a transformational life and health coach. I'm so used to saying at the other way.

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To mess that up, she is also the creator of Bliss.

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Yoga spa. She believes an abundant life is within reach and helps people forge a path to achieve their aspirations, cultivate resilient habits, and embrace life to the fullest. Welcome to the show, Traci. It's really nice to have you here.

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Thanks so much. Lovely to be here. Thanks Jill.

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So you've got a story, and you've been an entrepreneur forever. And tell us all the stuff. Where did you start?

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How the I've had so many journeys, I guess I'll backtrack a little bit. The one of the real reasons that I got into coaching was during COVID I found that people were kind of giving up on themselves and I saw being in the Wellness business for so long, I saw an opportunity to really capitalize on this. But my story kind of goes back a little bit.

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Further, I lost my mom to breast cancer when I was.

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14 years old.

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So she had been diagnosed at age 24 and was given two years to live with these two young kids, and she managed to live eight years. So kind of those formidable years of my life were spent watching my mom die for lack of a better term. And so, you know, from the ages of 15 on, I decided that I was.

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Going to not die of cancer? I was going to figure out how to live my best life and you know, it started with a lot of really.

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The different kinds of modalities, from nutrition to alternative medicine to though you name it, I, you know, at 15 to 20 years old, I'm kind of delving into these alternative methodologies and I kind of, I've always followed through with that, but then started a couple of businesses, got married, got divorced, moved.

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City started another business, went back to school.

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And I kind of found throughout my whole life, particularly not having a mom. I did things the hard way and not the smart way. And you know, I.

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Had to basically.

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Teach myself everything from how to put makeup on to relationships, to how to maintain a house and.

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There was no Internet.

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Back then, this was in the.

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80s so I you know, I did a lot of research and you know it sounds kind of cliche, but I really did work harder, not smarter. And so, you know, Fast forward through all these businesses and life experiences and divorce and marriage and moving. And you know, I after COVID when people have started kind of giving up on themselves, I'm like Oh my gosh, people need to.

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To invest in themselves some more, and they need to figure out that they have a lot to give to this world and maybe all these things that I learned over the last 40 years.

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Are things that I can impart knowledge with people for? So I went back to school again and got four coaching certifications and you know, through my Wellness business, I've kind of been coaching a team of 40 women for the last 10 years. So I've been doing it informally, but I wanted just to have that piece of paper and that formal education to say, yeah, this is how you coach.

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People and so got the coaching certifications and have just kind of jumped off that ledge since then.

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That's an inspiring story for sure. I can remember back in the 80s too, when you know, you just had to figure things out and they weren't always intuitive. And if you were a little bit.

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Thank you.

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Not part of the herd.

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Trying to find information.

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It was really difficult.

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I remember having my first child in the 80s and my mom and I were estranged at the time and had no idea.

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Anything about birth, about raising kids, about anything, about anything having to do with that because, you know, my sisters were close in age and we moved around a lot and we didn't have an extended family and it's just the information wasn't there. And so people don't realize how great the Internet is and how much.

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It provides connection and information and you know I get it, you know, not everything you hear on.

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The Internet, the.

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The truth. But you know what is truth anyway?

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Well, I think that's part of the process too is I made a lot of mistakes and you know at the time I was embarrassed of these mistakes and I was ashamed. And as I've kind of dealt with them over the.

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Years. I'm like, well, that's.

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How you learn and that's how you get better. And so, you know, I'm actually quite.

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Thankful in all these years. I'm thankful for the mistakes because it wouldn't give me the experience I have to go from now and it wouldn't give me the opportunities to be able to relate to people and what they're going through.

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Yeah. And that whole shame and embarrassment thing that that played such a big part in our lives for so long, because we always thought we were supposed to be perfect. But nobody starts out perfect in the beginning, I mean.

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You just you don't.

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Well, and as an only or as an eldest child, I had that perfection syndrome. I, you know, I had a very hard working German father. That was all about, you know, all you do is work, work, work, work, work. And so then I meet my second husband and he's all about let's play. I'm like, let's play. I don't do play. And so that was a really different dynamic.

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For me as well to go.

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From this very literal lateral.

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Way of thinking to no, we're going to, we're going to enjoy our lives a little bit. And so that was a big wake up call too. And then for me part of it too was because I had this really weird affinity with not dying and preventing cancer and nutrition and osteopathy and Reiki and acupuncture. I didn't really fit in.

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And so you know as again that that maturity and that age is kind of gone, I don't really care if I don't fit in. This is the stuff I love. And I'm going to get knowledgeable on it. And as I've kind of embraced it and started talking about it.

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It's shocking the number of people who are.

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You know they're on that same page, and they're like, oh, my.

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God, I don't.

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Want to talk to you about this so it's so refreshing to have.

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These conversations and.

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So that's been really an interesting part of it too. And that's again part of this coaching and be able to tell people that I get you, I get the weirdness.

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I've been there.

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Yeah, and we're all weird.

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Right. And we just got to embrace that and realize that there is no real normal and don't try to fit in this these boxes of society try to dictate for us because they're not real and you're never going to be happy trying to fit into those.

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No, you're not, and I think the only reason that we have these boxes is so that we can be stacked and put in the corner, you know.

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Break out of your box, baby. It's. It's what you were came here for, and the world needs your uniqueness and the things that you have to offer the world.

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Absolutely I.

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So agree.

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You came here to share that? Don't. Don't hide in the box.

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I agree. I totally agree.

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So how do you do your coaching? How does that look?

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You know what generally I try to encourage clients to book in for my 12 week session, so I called the 12 week total transformation and we can do everything from I want to lose weight to you know, I've had clients who want to.

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Try to start a new career or they've had their kids have left home and they don't know what to do with themselves and they've lost. This lost this identity. So our twelve week coaching sessions I think are the best way I've done some one offs and there's some success but by the time a client has developed that rapport with me and that trust.

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It takes a few sessions to get there, and so every week we are, oh, hang on two second.

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Sorry, I've got dogs in here every week is.

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About the wind.

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So we celebrate the winds. Then we celebrate the challenges. We have new information every week. We want to talk about that kind of every week. We have a new topic or a different framework that we go through to kind of build it, break down.

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Some of the barriers.

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You know, building great habits, things that we all kind of know, but we don't always think about. So every week we kind of go through that and then we have an action item every week. So I'm here to hold people accountable for the things that they're saying to themselves and saying to me. And then every week, we kind of go through these and by the end of the 12 weeks, it's, it's just.

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The changes in the dynamics of these clients that I've seen have the transformations are incredible. You know, I've had one client that went from Traci COVID was hard. My work is hard. My life is hard. My marriage is hard. My kids are hard. Everything's hard.

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To at the end, she had lost 45 lbs. She had a smile on her face. She had the confidence and people were coming up here, going Oh my.

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God, who are.

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You and so anyways the general just to that question was the 12 week session is.

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Definitely what I love to work on the most.

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So is it one on?

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One or is it group?

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It's one-on-one I I'm this is this is what I love. I love diving into the deep conversations. I love the one on ones I can facilitate groups and I've done a few masterminds and some webinars, but ultimately I love the connection because again, I didn't have any connection growing up. I didn't have a network, I didn't have a mom, I didn't have a sister.

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I didn't have any females in my life, so when I can connect on that deeper level on one-on-one, that's my jam.

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I love that so.

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Are you coaching sessions like an?

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Hour, hour and a half, yeah.

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We kind of say 45 minutes, but I think almost all of them go an hour or more because we just we tend to have so much.

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Stuff to talk about.

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I know when you get on the call with somebody.

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And an hour just like evaporates you.

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It flies by, it's we say it every time. Every time I have a call. And what's beautiful is because I have the spa. I'm able to do some coaching in person as well. So we do have that, which again still it, it just goes nuts.

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So where are you and?

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Where is your spell located?

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I'm in Canada, so this is Edmonton, Canada, Alberta, Canada. So we're kind of one of the most northerly cities of North America. So yeah, it's quite a small town, not it's, it's a, it's a city in Canada, but it's not that metropolitan. I'll say that much.

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OK, OK. So people could actually come and.

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Work with you in person if they.

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Lived near you.

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Absolutely. What we have here and it's interesting, we actually literally just changed the name from Bliss yoga spot to Bliss Medi Spa and integrated Wellness. So the spot itself is focusing a little bit more on medical aesthetics, lasers, injectables but also bringing that integrated Wellness. And so I've got IV pods, I have an acupuncturist, I have a Reiki.

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That practitioner I have a nutritionist, I have Mia. There's another coach that wants to come on. And then.

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Of course we do the yoga as well.

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Oh, that's really exciting so.

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So it's kind of a combination of both, but you you're able to help people everywhere with the, the one-on-one coaching and.

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You what do?

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You what? Do you actually help them achieve?

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Pretty much anything you know, I I've had people just say I just need to find myself again. I've had people I kind of like this concept of transition. So I've had women who are 60 years old and their kids have left home.

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And they don't know.

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Who they are anymore, they don't have their own identity. So I think that's been a lot of it. I've had some transitions with work, you know, changing jobs, leaving a job, starting a new job. I've had divorce, you know. How do you start your life over again? I've had business clients who are starting another business and you know that confidence of being able to build that business up again.

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So, you know, I think transitions is a big part of it as well, where people are going. So I could kind of help people obviously just achieve their goals and provide accountability and.

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Be their biggest.

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Cheerleader cause? I didn't have a cheerleader growing up.

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So I want to be their cheerleader.

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We hope them actually.

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Form a vision for their future.

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Well, we always set goals.

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That's kind of our first session and one.

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Of the things there's.

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Actually, three things that we do.

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In the first.

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Sessions, which I just love goal setting, which I think is super important. So we kind of do a 306090 day goals. What we're going to work on, but some future goals as well we do core values.

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Because I think that.

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Core values make your decision making so easy, so if we can kind of summarize down to two or three or.

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4 core values.

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It helps people again determine that identity and see where they wanna head to. And then the third thing I always work on is.

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Clear the clutter.

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And it sounds kind of cliche, but when you can clear the clutter in your space in your home, in your closets, in your kitchen, you're clearing the clutter out of your brain and you're making space for new information.

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New ways of thinking, and it's such a metaphor, but it's worked for all of my clients. I had one client. She's like, I can't go into my office. And I said OK, that's the only thing you're gonna work on for this week is clearing your.

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Office sure as heck she cleaned her office that day, did 5 emails that she had been putting off, contacted 3 clients that she hadn't done, and it.

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Was just that.

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Ability to focus.

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Off that first session, it was just crazy.

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It is so interesting to me how much clutter in your environment affects your mental ability to make decisions to.

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Take action it just like.

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It's like this chain that's around you and all you hear is you need to deal with me. You need to deal with me. And it's so loud it drowns everything else in your life out.

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And it's distracting.

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Well, it's kind of the shoulds, right? I should be doing this. I should be doing that. Yeah. No, let's just do it. Get it over with. And it's funny. One of the sessions that we do is a procrastination quiz. And sometimes we just like, I'm. I'm this ideal of obsessive idealists. And I will procrastinate on things until I know I have a specific amount of time.

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So that I can get something done. And usually I think it's going to take three or four hours and it takes me 15.

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In it. And so I think a lot of people have that as well and that's part of that, clearing the clutter. They don't want to start it because they think it's going to be so huge. But once they actually get into it and find out.

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It's not that intimidating. It's.

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Not that horrific. It's so empowering.

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I have a story about.

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A time when I was young, I was I must have been like 10 or 11, but I had my appendix almost burst and they we lived in Japan and I had emergency surgery. And so it was.

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Back in.

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It's probably the 60s that was that long ago and they kept you in the hospital for a really long time.

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Back in those days, so I was in the hospital and the nurse came in and she wanted to give me.

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A shot.

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Like, no, just let me let me wait till after.

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I eat.

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I just. I just didn't want the shot and.

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And I should have just let her give me the shot because the whole time I kept thinking the shots coming, the shots coming, the shots coming and it made such an impression on me that, I mean, I remember it to this day and it's like.

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50 years later or so.

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Isn't that crazy? What? Our brains are the A what? They can stop us from doing. But also what?

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We're capable of doing.

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We can create our own realities. We can.

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That's why I was asking.

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We do, we actually do create our own realities.

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You about the person.

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You know.

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And if you have the picture of what your reality you want, what?

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Reality. You want to actually have around you how you want to vision it, you're more likely to achieve it because your brain, just like it, works on Overdrive to make.

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It happen for you.

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Absolutely. It's so powerful. We just have to harness it better.

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Yeah, but when you when you allow it to go off into the weeds where it's like, procrastinate, procrastination, is the weeds to me. And it's just like you could make little things huge monstrous.

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Projects, when they're really still just little things like just to.

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Call it making moles.

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Or making mountains out of mole hills.

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100% I totally agree.

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So when you're working with people in over the 12 weeks, is there like an ability to continue working with you after that? Are they usually done?

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Absolutely. As a matter of fact, it's funny. Two of my clients signed up for a second twelve week session, but the one client did it every other week, so we got six weeks or sorry 24 weeks.

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Of it, my other client moved.

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It to once a month so.

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She got a whole another year. She's like.

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I'm just not ready to leave here yet. I.

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See, I just she wanted that.

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Ability to the.

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Accountability for that going on. So yeah, there's lots of options. We can do 45 minute check-ins. We can do a whole another 12 week session. I'm actually working on a couple of online courses.

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To be creating so that I can create that. So if they want to do some other, you know, work on specific stress management or procrastination specifically, I'm going to have. I'm developing some courses that people can work on after that.

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And those would be do-it-yourself sort of self-paced.

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Yeah, they'll be online modules that are, you know, videos, so.

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They can do it that way.

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Yeah, that sounds really exciting. So tell me a little more about your spa, because I'm curious what you do though and what are injectables? I'm.

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OK, so First off into.

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And you know, I'm a.

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Don't like needles?

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They are. Oh, you know what? It's crazy. The judges are Botox. Basically, the Botox and Dysport. There's a bunch of they're called neuromodulators. So you know, you put in your forehead and it stops the wrinkles from half. So forming that the neuromodulators, they dull the nerve endings so that you can't move those muscles. So it's not anything permanent.

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Lasts about three to four months. You do it kind of forehead around your eyes. There's different areas. You can do it, and then the other injectable is filler. So Hyaluronic acid that's injected into your face.

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And it's as we age, we lose volume and.

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We start to.

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Sag a little bit so you can put some of the filler like. I've got a little bit in my under eyes and there's a, you know, people a lot of people do lips and there's a lot of injectables that are done poorly so.

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People look like.

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They are very fake and they got a lot of stuff going on, but when you have a good injector.

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It just looks like you're refreshed and so that's a big part of it. I have 4:00.

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Nurses who do.

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All that, so that's a lot of fun.

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But the SPA was born out of an opportunity that we saw for a retreat. So you know, Edmonton is in northern Canada. There's not a lot of places you can go to just kind of chill out and pretend you're in Mexico or LA on the beach like we just don't have that. So.

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We started with the my husband in the grocery business and he sold those last grocery store and we're kind of like, well, what are we gonna do now? This was 11 years.

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And my brother was actually in school taking an entrepreneurship course. We were all into hot yoga. It's like, well, maybe you should start.

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A hot yoga studio, so.

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I'm like, well, that's.

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Not a bad idea, but if we gonna do hot yoga, we should do massage. Well, if we do massage, we should do a whole spa. If we're do spa, we should do medical spa. And it just excuse me. It grew to this 85.

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100 square foot.

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That is, and we would literally call it your local retreat without having to go anywhere. So we do all the regular spa services, facials, massages, waxing, pedicures, all that stuff, and then we have the Medi spas, so laser hair removal, skin rejuvenation, scalp hair regrowth, that kind of stuff, and then we have the.

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Cosmetic injectables that I just kind of spoke about as well. So it's kind of then we have the whole integrated Wellness side. So it's inside and out. So you know it's a judgment free.

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Zone where you can come in and.

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Do whatever makes you.

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Happy. And don't worry about what anybody thinks. If you wanna have a nip in it, well, we don't do anything surgical. But we do have, you know, Cellulite machine. So if that bugs you deal with it. If you want inner peace and you.

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Wanna go? Meditate, do.

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That we there's no judgment we just want.

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People to feel good about themselves.

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That sounds like an amazing.

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It's pretty special. I have to.

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Say, don't you love how when you become an entrepreneur, it's kind of like that story? Give if you give the.

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Mouse a cookie.

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Yeah, you know, I'm a serial entrepreneur. I've had my first business when I was 18 years.

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Old and golf.

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Accessories business. And then I was an IT as in marketing as an interior design. I just don't think I could ever work for someone again.

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As hard it.

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Is and you know, owning your own business is hard like I'm 24/7.

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There is no downtime. I literally have to physically leave the country to have downtime, and even then my staff are like.

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Traci, why are you texting us? What's like? Just relax. I'm like, I can't. I feel guilty for leaving you guys, but yeah, it's hard.

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It is hard. You become unemployable. I I've tried to have jobs and it's just like.

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Just doing it all wrong.

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Yeah, that's a big part of it.

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Too, right, like.

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That experience is something you can't. You can't buy. You have to. You know, it's a different level of knowledge.

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You just have to walk through it yourself. And yeah, I think people that are serial learners.

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You sound like you're a lot like I am and that it's like there's so much that you can learn and explore and do. And I was just like, how can you just, like, stay in one spot?

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Yeah, that's me. It's funny to say that because I'm actually registered for I'm. I'm taking a course right now. An online course is how to create them, and I'm registered for a how to coach through menopause in January. So that's a big one for me because menopause and that that transition again is so important. And it was such an interesting struggle for me that I really want to be able to coach on that. So I'm taking a course on that in January.

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I want to take a holistic nutrition course to add to it so that.

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Can actually be certified to give people that nutritional advice that I'm kind of giving already. So yeah, love learning, it's a really integral part of my person and my core values.

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Yeah. I just.

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So I know.

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You have an offer that you give people who visit your website. You want to talk about that a little bit.

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Right now I have one. It's just called stress Busters and it's, you know, again it's not stuff that we don't know, but sometimes you just need it laid out for you. So I have that on my website. I'm actually in the process of building a new website where I have some planners. I have a 306090 day planner that you can download as a PDF, but the stress Busters is the one right now that that I have available.

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I also have another one that is available somewhere on my website just on what working with a life coach is about because some people don't understand. You know, I've been to therapy. How? What's the difference between therapy and coaching? And there's just such a massive different.

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In terms of coaching, being your cheerleader and being that support network and have that consistent accountability and so, you know, I have that one.

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As well on my website.

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Awesome. Awesome. We'll make sure that people get the link to that so that they can.

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Pick it up because everybody needs help with.

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Busting stress in their lives.

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Right. Yes, definitely, definitely.

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One of those things that.

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It it's like clutter.

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Clutter. Yep, causes stress, but.

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When you when you don't have the.

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Tools to deal with it then it gets overwhelming quickly.

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It doesn't. It's not that hard, right?

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It's, it's.

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Sleeping well, it's, you know, good sleep hygiene. It's drinking water. It's exercising. It's eating good food. It's not rocket science, but sometimes we kind of forget and even me. It's like I've had a bad day. I'm going to go straight for that chocolate. Well, you know what? That's not helping, you know, have some fruits and vegetables.

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Have something that's, you know, a little more nutritious and we all do it. But we kind of get into that instant gratification. I just want something that's gonna make me feel better now.

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But it's not helping us in the long term.

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Yeah, and it's.

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When you're under stress, it's really hard to remember.

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What you should do, unless you.

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It is.

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Practice when you're not in stress.

00:25:23

That's it, right? And that's part of the thing too, is, is it building good habits? You know, Brendan Burchard is such a guy on, on, on the habits, right. And that the. Yeah.

00:25:35

It's interesting.

00:25:37

Yeah, and by.

00:25:38

Building habits. You're more likely to implement the tools that you need when you need them because you know.

00:25:47

When your house is on fire, that's.

00:25:47

Well, you're not in that right.

00:25:48

Mind, right?

00:25:49

Yeah, yeah. And it becomes an automatic response rather than what should I do? I remember when I'm really big into like essential oils and more natural remedies when people get sick around me that for the longest time I, you know, the kids would get sick and I would be like.

00:26:11

All that would go out the window, like here's the timeline.

00:26:15

Right. Yeah. The stress of it is just like I need something that's going to act fast and.

00:26:19

And we all get.

00:26:19

Into that instance, it's not an instant gratification. It's an instant response, right?

00:26:24

Result. Yeah, and it's building confidence that these tools are actually going to help you when you need them. You don't have to resort to that, that other stress response.

00:26:37

That you normally like.

00:26:41

It was just like.

00:26:43

If your normal response when you're really stressed out.

00:26:46

Is to start yelling at people.

00:26:48

Then, breathing isn't your first.

00:26:49

Right.

00:26:53

And if you can, if you can practice that while you're not stressed and you're not going to just like.

00:27:01

Blurred out things that you don't want to blurt out, but.

00:27:05

You're in the habit of doing anyway.

00:27:09

Then when you.

00:27:09

Are in that pressure zone, then you're more likely to.

00:27:15

Think about, you know, I could just breathe.

00:27:18

And reading is a really good example, right? Because we do it automatically, but so many of us don't breathe properly and don't utilize that tool to help us just manage, manage day-to-day stress. Being in traffic, you know, dealing with a spouse, you're a child.

00:27:35

Driving you insane and just.

00:27:38

Grounding with that breath, we have that tool available to us instantly and we don't even think about it.

00:27:46

Nostril breathing. Nostril breathing was when I discovered that it was just like, ohh, you could just hold one of nostril or the other and you could have, like.

00:27:57

Instant clarity. If you're like, trying to focus on a project.

00:28:03

And.

00:28:05

If you're like.

00:28:07

Feeling overly emotional? You can like close off the other nostril and you'll get.

00:28:14

Back into the not emotional zone.

00:28:19

Yeah, yeah, exactly. And you know, the other one, I really am a big fan of is, is box breathing, particularly for stressful situations. You know, just thought in for five, hold for five, out for five, hold for five. And it just do that about five or ten times. And it's crazy what that can do. I'm a big golfer. And so I use it on a golf course when I've had a bad shot.

00:28:38

I was like.

00:28:39

OK, settle into this. Don't worry about it.

00:28:43

I do it every night as I go to sleep. I it's like I close my eyes and turn all the.

00:28:48

Lights out and.

00:28:49

I box breathe.

00:28:51

I love that. Yeah, what a great thing to do.

00:28:52

You know four or five.

00:28:55

Times. And then I'll. I'll get into it. It physically relaxes you.

00:29:01

It does, yeah. It's, it's scientifically proven. Like, that's not just me making stuff up.

00:29:07

Yeah, and it.

00:29:09

It's just breathing.

00:29:11

You don't have to buy anything, it's.

00:29:11

Yeah. Isn't that the craziest thing?

00:29:19

And it's a great tool if you're going through menopause and you get those hot flashes in the middle of the night and you're like.

00:29:27

Now you're awake.

00:29:30

And what do you do?

00:29:31

OK. So you're going to start worrying.

00:29:33

Because that's what we all do.

00:29:36

Remember the.

00:29:36

Box breathing.

00:29:40

And again, this is part of why I want to coach on the menopause and I'm a big fan of bioidentical hormone replacement because I started that before I actually went into menopause. When I'm speaking menopause, I went to menopause with a single hot flash, a single night sweat.

00:29:54

Because I had started supplementing with progesterone prior to that and menopause was a breeze for me, like as much as.

00:30:02

It was a.

00:30:03

The perimenopause was horrific, but once I got on the bioidentical hormones it was fabulous. I.

00:30:11

I it's a big thing.

00:30:12

That I'm a big proponent of.

00:30:14

I couldn't agree with you more and.

00:30:16

You know, little things like monitoring your alcohol.

00:30:20

A big one. A big one.

00:30:23

I've embraced variety recently, but I know that alcohol really affected my sleep. When I was going through menopause or when I first gotten into menopause and it took me a long time to recognize that. And you are right about the bio.

00:30:40

Placement hormones. That makes such a huge difference and it.

00:30:50

It doesn't have to be an awful point in your life. It could be a great place. I am really happy that I'm through that stage of my life. I wouldn't want to be any other age than the age that I already am. I embrace being a Crone and you know.

00:31:16

Yeah. Like it was funny.

00:31:18

Because like had it had this idea, it's like, well, am I still a woman? Because I don't have my cycle and all this and.

00:31:24

I'm like there is so much freedom here. It's freaking awesome.

00:31:30

And again, because one is, you never have to worry about getting pregnant.

00:31:35

And caring supply is with you anywhere like life.

00:31:40

But it just once you.

00:31:41

You know, there's just so many women, though, that don't understand. They don't see that.

00:31:46

Part of the you know, it doesn't have to be so bad like I had terrible periods growing up. I was estrogen dominant. I had endometriosis. It was a real struggle. And again, not having a mom to advocate for me. It took me till I was 35 years old to know that I had enough trioses and had estrogen dominance and, you know, started dealing with it at 35.

00:32:07

And I suffered for 20 years. And so then again, these women who are suffering in Menon.

00:32:12

Cause and they don't realize that that's not normal. They think that just because of and then the doctors are telling us that. Oh, well, congratulations. You made it to this stage. This is what's going to feel like. No, we're not meant to, to suffer. There's something wrong if you're suffering. Not badly. And so, you know, having that network of specialists and in Canada it's tough like.

00:32:33

Functional doctors are hard to find here in the states, there's way more opportunities.

00:32:38

To work with functional.

00:32:39

Doctors and my functional Dr. just literally saved my life. I would look at food and gain weight. I couldn't sleep, but I was exhausted. I was losing hair. I was irritable, I was miserable, and the bio. Ohh.

00:32:54

And I what was the other one?

00:32:58

That's pretty much sums it up anyways the bioidentical hormones plus nutrition like I did go on.

00:33:04

A really good.

00:33:05

Regime of supplements like it literally changed my life.

00:33:12

Yeah, it's it.

00:33:15

Doesn't have to be horrible.

00:33:17

And I can relate with the whole.

00:33:21

Endometriosis thing I had endometriosis from an early age is probably from swimming on swim teams on one of my life, the chlorine.

00:33:33

Is really bad for that and also.

00:33:38

Yeah, it was.

00:33:39

Just like.

00:33:40

It was terrible. I had so many bad experiences because of it and I was about 30. I think I was 32 and I finally had surgery and they were like, thinking it was going to be, you know, nothing. And they were. They were in there for like, 5 hours cleaning stuff out.

00:33:57

Same with me. I went down to Oregon from Canada and had this surgery. That got rid of all the end of like they don't in Canada, they'll take off the top, you know, half a millimeter, which is nothing. It's an 8.

00:34:07

An inch and in in this this clinic in Oregon. They same thing. Five hour surgery, ablated all the endometriosis throughout my body. It was everywhere. It was on my bowels. It was in my fallopian tubes. I had cysts all over like it was just gross and nobody knew. We had no idea. I had all this stuff going on inside me.

00:34:32

No Internet. So you're just like the mercy.

00:34:35

Of the doctors you go to the doctors that they're then.

00:34:38

When you're 16 years.

00:34:39

Old that you have a venereal disease.

00:34:42

In front of your mom.

00:34:42

Right.

00:34:43

And they hospitalized me one time thinking I had colonis well.

00:34:50

No, that wasn't it, really. It took 20 years for them to figure out.

00:34:58

That it was.

00:35:00

Endometriosis and that they could do something about it. I didn't even know that if you took Motrin, Motrin would really help with the symptoms.

00:35:08

I was just like.

00:35:12

Well, so that is part of my.

00:35:13

Problem too.

00:35:14

It's just like.

00:35:17

Well, they put me on 1600 milligrams of ibuprofen, which is Motrin like to the point though that I such bad, leaky gut because I was on so many drugs and nobody knew about leaky gut at the time. Make sure you eat food if you're gonna take this kind of medication and all they were doing was band aiding the cramps. They weren't actually.

00:35:37

Dealing with the root cause of this estrogen dominance and again 40 years ago, they weren't talking about that so.

00:35:45

They, you know, mostly men didn't know what it was and didn't really care about it. But the women that suffer from it, man, I can remember one time driving. I was 16. I was driving home from someplace with my sister, who was 14 at the time, trying to tell her.

00:36:05

You know, if I pass out because it was so painful that this is what you need to do to get us off this freeway without dying, and it was just like.

00:36:15

Oh my God.

00:36:16

It was and I every month.

00:36:20

But I didn't.

00:36:21

Get the two and two together because it was usually a little bit before my periods. My periods were so irregular that I never knew when they were coming, so it was just like.

00:36:32

I didn't connect the two. I had no idea. You know what endometriosis was until.

00:36:40

But a Doctor Who said this is what I think you have.

00:36:44

I was like, I love you.

00:36:45

So much.

00:36:46

Yeah, 100%.

00:36:48

It, yeah. Like I said, it was over 30.

00:36:50

Five years old.

00:36:51

Like, yeah, they just gave me Advil and said, uh, it is. You're in pain or. And then they gave me an antidepressant. That was the other.

00:36:57

Part of it. Oh well, here's.

00:36:59

Here's the solution to all your problems. Taking any depression like no, no, no.

00:37:03

No, no, I'm not depressed.

00:37:04

It's not about that.

00:37:06

Or go on the pill. And because I lost my mother to breast cancer, I'm like, that's the last thing I'm ever gonna do is go on the pill. Don't.

00:37:12

Ever even talk to me?

00:37:13

About that. So such western medicine is just such a challenge.

00:37:19

It really is, and I'm so grateful that there's, you know, coaches like you and others and functional doctors that we can go to them to get help with some of these.

00:37:33

These things that are causing us pain and issues in our lives and actually get the problem solved instead of just.

00:37:44

The route.

00:37:45

Slapping a Band-Aid on it.

00:37:47

I so agree, so agree.

00:37:50

So, Traci, how can people get?

00:37:52

In touch with you.

00:37:54

I have a website. It's Traci coaches. So I'm Traci with an I Tracicoaches.com. That's probably the easiest way or my e-mail is literallyTraciTracicoaches.com, so those are probably the easiest way just because of my remote location. I do a lot of stuff over zoom. I do it over phone calls, whatever works for people, I'm happy to.

00:38:15

To be amenable that way.

00:38:17

And so what's?

00:38:18

The one thing you want to leave.

00:38:19

The audience with today, what do you hope?

00:38:21

They take away from our conversation.

00:38:24

I think one of the biggest things I've learned, you know, I'm 53 years old, that it's just never too late to make changes. It's never too late to be seen, heard and understood like we can always start over. It's, you know, one of my biggest inspirations is an Instagram account. Her name is trained with Joan.

00:38:44

That 72 years.

00:38:45

Old she decided she was going to be a fitness influencer, and she went off her blood pressure medication. She's not on bioidentical hormones like she did all this stuff at 72 years old. She's not 77.

00:38:56

And like, it's never too late, we can always reinvent ourselves and we can always strive to be better.

00:39:02

So I think.

00:39:03

That's probably one of.

00:39:04

My biggest lessons I'd love to leave with everybody.

00:39:07

I love it. I love.

00:39:09

It thank you so much for joining me today.

00:39:11

Thank you for having me. I really appreciate it.

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