Clint Callahan – Small Changes, Big Impact: Empowering Your Life

Clint Callahan, the founder of “Small Changes, Big Impact,” shares his insights and experiences in the “You World Order Showcase” podcast. As a social worker and therapist with over 23 years of experience, Clint realized that small changes can have a profound impact on one’s life. He believes that dedicating just 15 minutes a day to mindfulness can lead to significant positive changes.

Clint’s shift from traditional therapy to life coaching stems from his desire to help more people beyond the limitations of one-on-one sessions. He aims to equip individuals with psychological tools to navigate life’s challenges and overcome negative thought patterns. Clint emphasizes the importance of understanding our body’s responses to emotions and suggests techniques like box breathing to manage anxiety. Moreover, he shares strategies to combat impostor syndrome, a challenge he himself faces, by recognizing self-defeating narratives and embracing authenticity. Through his approach, Clint aims to empower individuals to embrace change and find joy in life’s journey.

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Hi and welcome to the You World Order Showcase podcast. Today we're speaking.

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With Clint Callahan and.

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He is the founder of small changes, big Impact.

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And I I'm just so excited to hear.

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Tell us all about how the little things we can do can have such a big impact on our life.

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So tell us about your background Clint tell.

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Us how you.

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Got started and tell us what you're doing.

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Here, thank you very much for having me. So like you said, my name is Clint Callahan. I've been a social worker and therapist for the last 20-3 years.

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I've pretty much worked with everything and everybody, so there's not much that surprises me anymore.

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But yet things constantly surprise me every day.

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The reason why I started small changes big impact is because I learned in my own life.

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Through all the different struggles and stresses that I have, which I'll get into later.

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That it really doesn't take big activity to make the changes in your life.

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It really only takes about 15 minutes a day of you being mindful about what's going on in your life, to change your thinking, and by changing your thinking, you're able to now look at things differently and then tell yourself a different story.

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Cause human beings run.

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On stories, it's what.

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Do and.

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The sad thing is because of biological evolution, we tend to be negative because we've spent most of our evolutionary thing surviving, and survival is often viewed as a negative thing.

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It can be positive, but biologically speaking it's negative.

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It means we're in danger.

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So we often go back to the fight or flight response.

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Even when there's no reason to, because our brain, as amazing as it is, is still wired for.

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Or being stuck in The Cave being chased by Saber Tooth tigers being all those kind of things.

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And so by allowing ourselves to recognize those things and see it and stop telling ourselves the story, we can make massive changes in our life and just a little bit of time.

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I couldn't agree with.

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You more so.

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What motivated you to move into this phase of your life journey instead of staying in social work?

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I am.

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I'm still doing therapy.

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I'm still doing social work, but I wanted to do more.

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I wanted to help more people because there's only so much you can do.

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One-on-one.

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So I decided to create a group coaching program where I'm basically recording videos of myself teaching the different lessons that I've learned throughout my 47 years on this planet and all the different lessons that I've learned.

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Being a social worker.

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For 23 of those years, in order to help people understand that it really only takes 15 minutes a day to let go of these preconceived notions and these stresses, and really the most amazing thing is.

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That's 1% of your day.

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It's literally using 1% of your day to affect massive change in your life, and that's what's most important. And I chose to make this change in this shift because.

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People need help. The mental health system in America is broken. I've been in it for 23 years. I've been on and I've been on both sides.

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But I've worked for health insurance companies.

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I've worked for, agencies I've worked as a therapist, and in in, in my independent practice, which I'm doing now, and now I'm switching into life coaching because I really think what's necessary for people is they need the knowledge and the psychological tools.

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In order to help move themselves forward because.

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My job technically, if you really want to get super technical is I'm a professional secret keeper and advice giver.

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That's what I do.

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Yeah, and people just aren't prepared.

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We as we grow up, we're.

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Not taught these skills as we.

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Go to school.

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We're not taught these skills and.

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If you really try to reach out, I know there was a time when I really struggled.

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Wondering about my sanity and I was trying to find somebody to help me and a life.

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Coach would have.

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Been better than.

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A psych psychologist.

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I get that.

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And psychiatrist.

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It's OK most people.

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Most people some.

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People call me doctor and I keep.

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Saying no, I'm.

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Not a doctor, but it's.

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Right, right.

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Those kind of things that the hard thing about mental health is I'm a big advocate for mental health people going to therapy, people doing self exploration, self help any way that you can get the information to begin to make change.

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Yes, yes, yes, by all means do that.

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But the reason why I am I'm still doing therapy but also stepping into life coaching is because really what I've noticed is in the last.

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Two years that I've been doing my practice, I've been really focusing more on helping people get unstuck and just move forward.

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I've stopped doing the fruity and more.

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Psychoanalysis model where?

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Ohh let's look back.

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At your entire history and your entire path.

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To figure out what's wrong today, when really.

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No, no, you just want your pain to stop.

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Now you just want to change now.

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Right.

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So let's do things to help you get unstuck now by giving you proper tools and proper psychological tools that are tested, verified in all these different things.

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There's so much data behind the modalities too.

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That you can move straight.

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And that's The thing is that as people continue and the amazing thing.

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About the world.

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Is we can do this?

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One of the benefits of COVID, which is weird to say, was this law was rushed into.

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I was rushed in for all the country where therapists can now do this.

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I can now talk to people that.

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Where when I.

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They're like you.

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Don't know how long I've been trying to get there. I literally live 100 miles from nowhere.

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There are no therapists around me.

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I'm in a small town.

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I wouldn't want to talk to anybody in this town anyway because I don't know what they would say or not say so I need someone I can talk to.

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And now, because of this, we can do that and so that's the amazing side of technology.

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But then there's the.

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I think.

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COVID really was a 2 sided.

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Sword it on there.

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Was the bad, horrible stuff that it caused, man.

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On the other.

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Side of it, so much opportunity and to get help and people are stepping into their powers and you know you.

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You were helping a few people.

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And now you can.

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Help a lot.

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Of people.

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Next I'm now.

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I'm licensed in both California and Colorado.

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And before when I before because we moved to Colorado about five years ago, if I would have left California, I could not have practiced there.

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I could not have kept my clients there.

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I could not have continued my relationship.

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With these people.

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There, but because of what happened with COVID.

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It it allowed me then to reconnect with those people and continue to provide care across state lines.

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And I think that is more necessary because how is me living in Colorado changing the skills and the knowledge that I can bring to other people?

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It doesn't, but it's one of those things that of course, we like to have arbitrary boundaries and laws and rules.

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Because that's the way it is.

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And and like you said, this the opportunities that COVID is afforded in terms of you know opening up the boundaries and making it accessible for people, I I was, you know, my own experience where I I couldn't find help.

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Yeah, locally and.

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Now you can go online and you.

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Can you can find the help?

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That you need and.

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It's really more confidential and personal.

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Well, it is also because it's studies have shown that people feel more comfortable when they actually are talking to you from their own home, so they're able to share more.

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They they are more confident that no one's going to be outside listening at the door or any of these different things.

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Then when they come into the office, I still people.

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I still see people in person and I see people on video.

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But I really like.

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I like the in person part just because it's a slightly different dynamic.

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But video works just as well.

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I've done it now for over 2 1/2 years and I still am seeing the same results for my clients like I was just telling you about one of my clients today that I just saw him by video. He's been working through the small changes of big impact.

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System with me.

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He was kind of one of my beta testers.

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He's one of my therapy clients and he was telling me about the big changes in his life and how it's able to bring back joy in his life like.

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He told me how one of the things I used to do is I used to play competitive golf, but I couldn't.

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I found I lost my joy for playing competitive golf because I would get so mad and I would have this story in my head that this is that because I've screwed up this shot.

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It's gonna ruin the rest of the game.

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And then it did because of self fulfilling prophecies.

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It does.

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You tell yourself a story.

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Enough, you'll begin to act out the story whether you want to or not.

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And what he told me later is that ever since he started working with me and I gave him those different tools and stuff that he took that step back after he had a bad 1st hole.

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But then he actually ended up winning the round because he took a step back and took a breath and recognized that no one else is paying attention.

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That I did bad on this whole everybody else is playing against themselves.

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I can be I can do better the.

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Next hole, it's all.

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About doing better, the next set and yeah, he and he found his joy again.

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And it made him.

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He's I've I've.

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I've never.

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I haven't seen him that happy in a while that he found that joy again.

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And that's really what I want people to understand.

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That by taking a step back and recognizing these very important things, which is the first is.

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We are all.

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Making it up as we go along.

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No matter how put together, the person may seem on the outside from the moment they wake up to the moment they go to bed, they're making it up everything.

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I just talked.

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I made it up.

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It's coming out of my head as we're doing this right now.

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And the second thing is, is that once you recognize that you're making everything up as you go along, you can take a breath and realize that failure is part of the equation.

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That failing does not mean the end of something.

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If anything, it's just saying.

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Try this differently and by using those two things you then recognize my favorite thing, which is life is absurd.

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The more that you see how insane life is, the more that you take that step back and recognize.

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Ohh, I'm a human being on a mud bow, spinning around in a void of space.

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And yet I'm treating my time, which is the most valuable asset that I'll.

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Never get back.

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For invisible things called money.

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And yet I don't ever feel like I have enough and I don't ever feel like I'm safe enough and I don't ever feel like all of these things.

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But yet, yes, you can.

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Cause again it's.

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All about perspective.

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Yeah, that is. That's profound.

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I've had a little bit of practice.

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And a lot of it comes down to just waking up in the morning and deciding, you know what, what you're going to think about today and then.

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There's a a Bible verse that says something to the effect of take all your thoughts captive.

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Think about what you're thinking about because the thoughts really do impact.

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Your life, your whole life.

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It's not just what?

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You put in your.

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Mouth that affects your body, it's the.

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Thoughts you're having in your head.

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Because thoughts generate emotions and emotions trigger hormones and.

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You know different.

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Hormones will cause different actions in your body.

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And one of the and the most amazing.

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Thing that people don't recognize is that it's actually flipped.

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80% of what our brain gets comes from our body, so that's why I always tell people whenever they're struggling with anxiety or depression or anger or these kind of things.

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Listen to your body just before you have the feeling.

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If you can figure out what your body is doing like I know for me, I'll use me as an example.

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When I get really anxious, my guts start to roll and I got to start to roll.

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Then I start to feel sick to my stomach.

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I start to just feel just ohh and that's how I know I'm really.

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Anxious, but I know that because I've paid attention that whenever I get really anxious, that's how I feel.

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And so then I'm able to do a very simple technique called box breathing, which is designed to stop your adrenal system from dumping more adrenaline.

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Because when we get caught in fight or flight mode, our brain.

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Gets stuck in a loop and it doesn't know how to break out of it cause our brain is telling us because our body is telling our brain there's danger, we're gonna die.

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There's danger.

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We're gonna die because that's the only thing our brain knows.

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After all that evolution.

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That's evolutionary biology.

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Because if you really think about it, we've only in America really been safe and secure and not needing to have to worry or work 12/15/18 hours a day to survive. Most people don't have to.

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Do that anymore.

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But by doing that, it changed the way that we look at the world because from the it's been about 80 years it's been 120.

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Years since the.

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Industrial Revolution, 80 years since the first major computer was invented.

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And then it's.

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And then was like 26 years or so since the first since the Internet happened. And then it's been like 14 years since the smartphone.

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And then like 7 years since apps and now a year since AI.

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So we are in a very small little thing that's changed everything.

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Because now if I wanted to.

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I could.

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I wouldn't have to leave my office, ever.

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I could stay here and Amazon and Walmart plus could deliver my groceries and food to me.

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And I could live in here forever, cause I don't need to struggle to survive anymore.

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And that's the thing.

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But our brain is still wired only for survival, because that's what we did from.

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All of human history is survival.

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I think there's.

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A a point when you were talking about paying attention to your body.

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My my guts.

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Also when I'm anxious and I don't even necessarily.

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Recognize why that happens?

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Because so many of our thoughts happen in our subconscious mind.

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So if you're paying attention to your body, which was?

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Yeah, it was an aha moment for me, so.

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I just want to talk this through.

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For a second, if you.

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Because I noticed this happened to me yesterday, I noticed my stomach was like in knots about something, but I.

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OK.

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Didn't really.

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Stop to.

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Take the moment.

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I recognized, you know you're anxious.

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Yeah, but then I was really busy.

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So I.

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Didn't stop and think, OK, why are you anxious?

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What was the thought that caused this anxiety to start happening in in your body, which is a chemical reaction?

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Yes it is.

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It's not like.

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It it's.

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It's not something that you can just like say ohh.

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I'm not going to.

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Be anxious anymore.

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You have to actually figure.

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Out what triggered?

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It and then.

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Take, you know, do the box breathing, which I.

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Would like for you to share how.

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How that actually looks?

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Because I think a lot of people don't know.

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Show so the what I usually do is.

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This is what I teach my clients is I teach my clients and this is part of my small changes.

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Big Impact program is I teach them what I call an emotional management plan.

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So the first thing you do is when you notice that your body or that you're starting to feel anxious or depressed or having any big emotional moment.

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That is that you consider to be negative because it depends on how you view it.

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Did you consider it to be negative?

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The first thing you do is you box break the box.

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Breathing is a type of breathing that's designed to calm your sympathetic nervous system.

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Because breathing is one of the few things that is automatic but that we it's the only thing that we can is automatic but.

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That we can't control.

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And so rocks breathing is you breathe in for four seconds.

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Hold for four seconds.

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Breathe out for four seconds.

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Hold out empty for four seconds and then.

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Breathe back in for four seconds and then you do that four times.

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And by doing that, it's telling your body there is no tiger.

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There is no bear, there is no danger.

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Because when there's danger.

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Our lungs only breathe shallowly and it cause it's trying to hyper oxygenate our body to fight or to run.

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And so by changing the way you're breathing, when you're feeling anxious or depressed, or you're having those kind of looping, ruminating thoughts, it slows everything down and it gets your body to go.

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Ohh, I guess I'm not in physical danger.

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I can turn off the all the hormones that are causing this and so by doing that it gives you the ability to stop.

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And then the next thing you do is you write down verbatim what the story is in your brain.

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You can write it, you can do voice typing on your phone.

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You can record a video of like, OK, this is the stuff I was thinking right now.

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And by doing that, but it allows you to do then is then you go do just a bit of exercise.

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Go take a quick walk somewhere.

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Go walk around.

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Go do a little a push up a sit up.

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Go do something because adrenaline has.

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One job to be burned off.

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And if you don't?

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Let it get burned off.

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Adrenaline goes to three places because there's three things in your body that are working continuously.

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Your heart, your lungs and your brain. That's why when we get caught in anxiety, our heart beats faster. We continue to breathe fast and our brain continues to ruminate, because that's what adrenaline's job is. It's to be burned off.

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So it's going to whatever place is going to let it get burned.

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Off the fastest.

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And then from there you after you.

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So after you breathe it out, you write it out and then you give it exercise.

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You go back and you read what you wrote.

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This thing takes.

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About six to seven minutes to do.

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But when you go back and read what you wrote, you'll be surprised when you see it in writing or you see you talking to yourself about this is what I was going through.

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Your brain starts to go.

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Ohh, wait a minute.

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That doesn't make any sense.

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Why was I gonna act on that?

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And the more you do that, the more you begin to see it, and then you start subconsciously and consciously creating roadblocks for those thoughts because you recognize them for what they are, which is lying, lying liars.

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And that happens to everybody all the time.

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And by doing that and by This is why being more psychologically minded, having a good access of a bunch of different psychological tools will allow you to go through any situation and understand how to navigate it.

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You may not navigate it perfect, but nobody's perfect.

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As long as you navigate it 10 percent, 15%, twenty percent, 50% better than last time you're improving and that's all that matters.

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That is all that matters.

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Chris going to.

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Ask you about strategies for overcoming impostor syndrome.

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Oh boy, I am I am well versed in impostor syndrome thanks to being bullied a whole bunch as a kid and having friends, having a group of friends that were mean.

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As a group.

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That's great as individuals, which really added to the confusion, led to a lot of impostor syndrome.

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For me.

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And it's one of those things that I still fight with on a daily basis.

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It's still one of the most common things that comes up of like, why do people?

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Why are people gonna listen to you? What do you really know? And I'm like, well, so I have to keep reminding myself. Hey, I do have 23 years of experience. I have lived for 47 years. I've probably talked to.

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I mean 2 to 5000 people in all kinds of different realms, about all kinds of different things I might. I might know something, but it's that self talk piece again.

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Where recognizing what your impostor story as mine was that nobody likes you.

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You don't know anything anyway, and so you should just be quiet and try to do whatever they want you to do.

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Figure out who they need you to be and be that cause.

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Then they'll like you.

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But what I've found is in the last 10 years since I've really implemented.

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This system on myself, I don't.

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Do that anymore. I'm.

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Me all the time.

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I dial some stuff up and I dial some stuff down, but I'm neat.

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This is just neat.

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Everything you're getting is just who I am and figuring out what that is takes time, but it takes you knowing what's the story you're telling yourself about.

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You cause all of us have been told the story about who we are.

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My story was.

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When I was born, I weighed 1 pound, 15 ounces.

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So that was 47 years ago. So the odds of me being alive and being normal, I'm still seeing it that.

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True or not is was very, very slim because I because I my mom wrote a journal and she in that journal she talked about how many other babies would come in that were weighed more than me and would still die, and how all these things and all the trauma they went through for the first six months of my life.

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And so I was always told that.

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So I always thought, well, of course I must be here for something good.

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I must be here because God said so, because I'm special.

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Because all this kind of stuff and then at.

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Home it was.

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But then school was another story.

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It was bullying and pain and suffering and frustration and I didn't understand why that was.

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But going through all those things also helped me to learn that.

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It doesn't matter what other people think, because they're going to judge you and they're going to have opinions about you.

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No matter what.

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Because I was bullied for being too thin and too emotional, other people were bullied for being, for being too fat.

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Other people were bullied for being, you know, a a different ethnicity for having an accent, for having a stutter.

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People that want to bully you will.

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I'd be an emotional enough.

00:21:59

Bully you for any reason.

00:22:01

Don't believe.

00:22:01

You for any reason, and usually it's always about.

00:22:07

Not about you.

00:22:08

You're just the perfect target for that period of time.

00:22:12

And the crazy thing is out.

00:22:13

I like a lot of.

00:22:13

It is.

00:22:14

It people are mirrors and they.

00:22:17

Reflect back to you that you.

00:22:19

You send tend to perceive the.

00:22:21

Thing that you're worried about in yourself.

00:22:24

Yeah, I find that most people don't care.

00:22:27

About you.

00:22:28

Yeah. Oh, yeah.

00:22:28

You can do whatever you want to do and mostly they'll just ignore you.

00:22:33

Because they're more concerned about themselves.

00:22:35

Yeah, and how they're being perceived and they're not.

00:22:39

And oh and.

00:22:39

That is true.

00:22:39

It's not paying.

00:22:40

No, that is a.

00:22:40

Attention to you.

00:22:41

That is 100%.

00:22:42

True, most of the time.

00:22:44

Most of the time when people are.

00:22:47

When it comes to people, it's like I just like I tell my clients when you're in front of me, I am 100% here for you. But when?

00:22:55

You leave the door.

00:22:56

I can't take you with me.

00:22:59

I can't take you with me when I leave this office.

00:23:01

I can't take you with me when I go home because I can't carry you.

00:23:04

Your burdens, you carry your burdens and all carry mine, but I will do my best to teach you how to whittle your burdens down and how to set them down, because that's what it's about.

00:23:16

Every human being on this planet again, we all have our own story, and that story comes with the good, the bad, the ugly, the burdens.

00:23:24

The pain, the sorrow, the joy, all the stuff.

00:23:28

So until you are able to set those burdens down, and the only way to do that is.

00:23:33

Continuing to take inventory every day, what am I thinking?

00:23:37

What am I feeling?

00:23:38

What am I telling myself about this moment?

00:23:41

Like my client who just talked to.

00:23:42

Me about golf, right?

00:23:44

In that moment, he used to tell himself.

00:23:47

I'm gonna suck on the rest of this course.

00:23:49

I'm gonna ruin the game.

00:23:51

It's going to be a horrible game.

00:23:52

I'm going to play the worst ever.

00:23:53

Played in my life.

00:23:55

And then he would.

00:23:56

And then last weekend, when he went and did it, he had a bad 1st hole and then he ended up winning the round because he changed the way he talked about himself because he stopped.

00:24:05

He took an inventory of what he was saying, what he was feeling, what he was thinking.

00:24:09

He did some box breathing, and then he changed his entire perception of the entire time that he spent out there.

00:24:17

Just that's the thing, right?

00:24:18

Like, I read a very interesting study recently where they talked about how as parents.

00:24:24

93% of the time we spend with our children.

00:24:29

Is from birth to 18.

00:24:32

Because after they're 18.

00:24:34

And they go out into the world.

00:24:36

You get 7% of their life after that.

00:24:39

So cherish that piece. When I heard that study and like, there's no way 93%, that's insanity, no.

00:24:47

So I started thinking, let me think about my own life.

00:24:49

So I started doing the math right.

00:24:51

OK.

00:24:51

I was with my parents for 18 years.

00:24:52

I would see him every day.

00:24:54

Then I went to college and I'd see them in the first quarter, first quarter of college, I'd see them about every two weeks.

00:25:00

The second quarter of college, I'd see them maybe once a month.

00:25:03

The third quarter of college I would see.

00:25:05

I saw them on Thanksgiving and Christmas the next year. I saw them maybe 2-3 times a year, maybe holidays. Then I moved across the country.

00:25:14

Washington to get my graduate degree.

00:25:17

And then I saw them one time that year.

00:25:20

Then I moved to California and I saw them one time that year and then it started two times every two years.

00:25:25

And then so on and.

00:25:26

So forth.

00:25:27

And I'm like, Oh my God.

00:25:28

That is so true.

00:25:30

So being present where you are now with the people you are now that you have in your life now is the most important thing in the world because you don't know when you're gonna not see them again.

00:25:43

You don't know how often you're going to see them, and it's so important to be connected because.

00:25:48

We are more connected now than ever thanks to technology, and we're also more disconnected.

00:25:54

Than ever now, thanks to technology.

00:25:58

That is so.

00:25:59

And have five kids and my youngest jus turned 19t.

00:26:05

But my oldest is 40.

00:26:07

And I've had young kids in my house for a lot of.

00:26:11

Years like, yeah, 40 years of my.

00:26:13

Life, but it's.

00:26:17

Being I'm seeing that that disconnect now they're launched 00:26:22

They have families of.

00:26:23

Their own they.

00:26:25

Growing up, they're busy.

00:26:26

They have things that they want to do and while we.

00:26:28

So, wait, wait, hold one thing.

00:26:29

Text a lot.

00:26:30

Wait, wait.

00:26:31

You did your job, you did your job.

00:26:31

I'm 63.

00:26:35

Good job.

00:26:36

Five kids.

00:26:37

That's a good job.

00:26:39

But yeah, you're noticing this.

00:26:39

And they're really amazing human beings.

00:26:42

I'm sincerely proud of the people they grew.

00:26:45

Up to be every one of them.

00:26:47

Is just like wow.

00:26:50

And I say, you know, I worked in.

00:26:53

Hospice for a while, as a social worker.

00:26:55

And none of them ever.

00:26:57

And the 19 people that I worked with during the couple of years that.

00:27:00

I did that that all that's the.

00:27:04

Then none of them ever said.

00:27:05

Boy, I sure wish I would have worked more, all of them said I wish I would have taken.

00:27:09

That trip.

00:27:10

I wish I would have spent more time with my family.

00:27:12

I wish I would have figured out a way to create family reunions.

00:27:15

I wish I would have done these things and created deeper, more meaningful connections with the people in my life, because that is all that really matters.

00:27:24

The rest of the stuff doesn't matter.

00:27:27

Yeah, it's important.

00:27:28

You need money to live?

00:27:29

You need.

00:27:30

You want to have a good life?

00:27:31

You want all these things, but without the people to share it.

00:27:35

It's hollow and it's empty.

00:27:37

And it's.

00:27:38

And it's quite frankly sad.

00:27:40

It is sad and it's.

00:27:42

Sad that there are so many people that are focused on the things that are just really so insignificant when.

00:27:50

Just I kind of why I do this show it's I I want to highlight what people are doing out there and help to help be the solution and to make connections because I think the one-on-one connections.

00:28:05

They have a ripple effect they help.

00:28:08

The people that in their periphery, you help one person, that person has people.

00:28:13

That are in their periphery.

00:28:14

You changed that person's life. You changed everybody's life around there and those ripple out. And so you're changing communities and you're changing the whole world. And I just think coaches.

00:28:20

It's to peddle in the pond.

00:28:25

Are like the key to this.

00:28:28

Massive change that I see happen.

00:28:30

Thing it's not even like on the horizon it's happening now because the more people that find out about what you're doing and what you know, the other people that I talk.

00:28:41

To are doing.

00:28:42

The more the more changes.

00:28:45

Start the little the little ripples start happening and.

00:28:47

Yeah, it's the ripples.

00:28:48

It's throwing the Pebble in the pond.

00:28:50

It may not look like anything has changed, but every place that Ripple goes, it shifts and changes an entire ecosystem, and that's what it is with people like.

00:28:59

That's the way I look at it, right?

00:29:00

Cause the clients that I see when they make changes in their life, it then affects the people in their orbit.

00:29:07

And then I always.

00:29:08

Tell them.

00:29:09

Take what you've learned from me and teach your family.

00:29:11

Take what you learn from me and teach your kids.

00:29:13

Teach your wife, teach your friends.

00:29:15

Tell everybody if you.

00:29:17

If you don't feel like you can teach it, send them to me.

00:29:19

I will teach them send you know, let them understand that if you make these little changes, you will be better.

00:29:27

You will feel better.

00:29:29

You will feel full.

00:29:30

You'll feel connected. You'll feel, you know, like you're living your best life. And that's The thing is, I spent 38 years not living my best life.

00:29:40

Because I was afraid because I was scared, because I didn't think I was good enough, because I.

00:29:44

Didn't think I.

00:29:45

Had enough to offer because there was a million.

00:29:48

Because it's.

00:29:50

And I finally got to the point where I'm like, no, I'm done with that.

00:29:53

All I want to do is do what I've always wanted to do because I wanted to help people and be a therapist or be a social worker or be a police officer or be something.

00:30:01

That's all I wanted to do my whole life, and this is who I am.

00:30:04

This is written in my DNA and all I want is people to breathe and recognize that.

00:30:11

It's OK to fail, and that failure will lead you to amazing places, and it's OK to succeed.

00:30:17

And success will lead you to amazing places.

00:30:20

But just to always be mindful where you are in your journey and always be mindful of what this is telling you because this is your best friend and your worst enemy.

00:30:33

Be the hero.

00:30:34

You don't have to be the victim.

00:30:36

A victim needs somebody to rescue them.

00:30:39

When you're the hero.

00:30:40

You have all the power.

00:30:42

And yeah, sometimes you're gonna go.

00:30:42

That's right.

00:30:44

Through struggles, but.

00:30:46

On the other side.

00:30:48

It feels so good till the next level comes.

00:30:49

That's right, you get to live a life.

00:30:52

You get to live a life, but that's the thing. Life is a constant repeating hero's journey.

00:30:59

That's what it is.

00:31:00

Sometimes the journey is long.

00:31:02

Sometimes the journey is short.

00:31:04

But that's what it is.

00:31:05

Every single time is it is that journey repeating and repeating and repeating.

00:31:10

But as you gather the tools you need, the journey becomes shorter each time because been there done that, recognize it.

00:31:19

You know what to do, no problem.

00:31:21

That's why it's so important for anyone that is suffering anyone that is going through feeling, burned out, depressed, anxious, frustrated, stressed out, disconnected from their family, from their friends, from their loved ones, to find the tools to begin to build the bridge, to come back.

00:31:38

Because the only person that can do.

00:31:40

It is you.

00:31:41

Nobody else can do it for you until you step up and decide.

00:31:46

I'm going to do this.

00:31:48

And that's really the beauty of hiring.

00:31:49

A coach.

00:31:50

It's you can just.

00:31:51

You can try to.

00:31:52

Figure it out on your own.

00:31:54

A lot of times when we're talking about these sorts of things, people don't even know where to start.

00:32:00

And then.

00:32:02

If you hire a.

00:32:03

Coach, they're going to shorten the learning.

00:32:05

Curve and you're going to get results quickly.

00:32:09

And really, 15 minutes a day, it's got 15 minutes.

00:32:13

You can find 15 minutes in your day.

00:32:15

Yes, again.

00:32:15

You have to break it up into three sections of 5 minutes.

00:32:18

When you're in.

00:32:18

Or 15 or 15.

00:32:19

The bathroom.

00:32:20

One minute sections.

00:32:21

Whatever you need to do.

00:32:23

It's that kind of thing, right?

00:32:24

Sometimes all you need is that one minute to just.

00:32:26

Stop and just go.

00:32:30

OK, I don't like this thinking.

00:32:32

I gotta change it.

00:32:33

What can I do different?

00:32:34

That's why having specific tools that are very simple and that are very effective, that lets you see the different way of looking at things, it gives you the ability to give yourself permission to have to take that 5 minute break.

00:32:50

Take that 15 minutes to use your lunch hour to eat food and learn about what can I do to change the rest of my day.

00:32:59

If the morning was bad, OK, what about the rest of the day?

00:33:02

I'm a big proponent of guess what?

00:33:04

Here's a very simple hack.

00:33:05

Are you?

00:33:06

If you got a 30 minute lunch and it takes you 15 minutes to eat lunch, take a 15 minute nap.

00:33:12

Because when you wake up from that 15 minute nap, or even if you're not napping, just lay there and just breathe and just rest when you open your eyes, you will feel like it's a new day and you will be able to move forward again.

00:33:24

It's really simple things like that that we will be like, well, that make that makes perfect sense.

00:33:30

Why don't I do that?

00:33:31

I don't know because sometimes.

00:33:33

You don't think about it anymore.

00:33:34

You don't think about it.

00:33:35

A lot of it.

00:33:36

You just don't think about it.

00:33:37

And and sometimes it's because you just don't know.

00:33:40

You don't know what you don't know, but once you do know, then it's a matter of practicing and making it a habit, so that when those when like anxiety strikes you or.

00:33:54

You feel like you're gonna get.

00:33:55

Really mad about something.

00:33:57

Yeah, yeah.

00:33:59

The only person you're.

00:34:00

Hurting is yourself.

00:34:01

You're in traffic and somebody cuts you off.

00:34:04

Obviously that person.

00:34:06

Didn't know they cut you.

00:34:08

Off. Yeah, nobody.

00:34:10

Nobody in their right mind.

00:34:11

It's not intentional.

00:34:12

It's never intentional.

00:34:13

It's yeah.

00:34:15

And well, sometimes it.

00:34:16

I can't say never.

00:34:17

Sometimes it can be intentional, but that is a very different circumstance and a very different situation.

00:34:21

That's a.

00:34:22

And that's when you should go see a therapist.

00:34:22

Psychopath. That's when you need.

00:34:26

More than a life coach, that's when you need.

00:34:28

A therapist, but that's also.

00:34:30

Part of it.

00:34:30

That's one of the good things.

00:34:32

Now, being assertive, being a therapist and being a life coach.

00:34:36

If I see things while I'm coaching you, that I think you need more, I will tell you.

00:34:42

I think you need more.

00:34:43

I think you may need to go to therapy because I think the tools I will teach you will be a good adjunct to therapy because sometimes you need therapy too, because sometimes you have to dig out.

00:34:54

The root of the.

00:34:55

Problem a lot of the times it just takes moving forward, but sometimes you have to go in and look at the root cause.

00:35:00

If you don't, it continues to go back again and again and again.

00:35:04

So there's always that balance that you have to.

00:35:08

So what is the one thing you want our clients to take away from this conversation today?

00:35:15

I want you to know that if you're feeling stuck, or that if you feel like you're failing in different areas of your life, that you can change your life in 100 days.

00:35:24

The key is to focus on renovating 4 main areas of your life.

00:35:28

Your time, your connections, your emotions, and your purpose.

00:35:33

You can never discount having purpose.

00:35:35

That's why working with me and doing the small changes, big impact, transformational system, that's what it's designed to do is designed to help you take accountability, to learn 30 different psychological tools and then to use these tools to make those small changes in each of those areas.

00:35:51

I discussed in 15 minutes a day.

00:35:53

So by doing that.

00:35:55

Literally in about as quick as three months, you will start to see changes in your life because once you see the changes, you can't Unsee it.

00:36:05

And once you can't Unsee it, you won't do the stuff anymore.

00:36:08

So if you want to make any changes in your life and you're tired of feeling stuck and burned out and all these things.

00:36:14

Reach out to you.

00:36:17

Perfect.

00:36:17

And how do they reach out to you?

00:36:19

Sure, you can reach out to me so you can reach out to me on small changes. Big impact.net back slash info and on that website you can get more information.

00:36:30

There's a link to a free 20 minute training on burnout, or you can just set up a 30 minute call to talk with me, or you can find me on Facebook and Instagram at small changes.

00:36:39

Big impact.

00:36:40

Dot the number four and you so, but all these things also they'll be.

00:36:45

Available right in the.

00:36:45

Y OU or just the letter UYU and the letter U.

00:36:47

Full no four.

00:36:49

And you the the letter you.

00:36:51

OK.

00:36:51

Perfect.

00:36:52

And we'll make.

00:36:53

Sure, the links are in the show notes below.

00:36:56

Clint, it has.

00:36:57

Been my pleasure getting to chat with.

00:36:59

You. You.

00:37:00

You've just helped me in so many ways today.

00:37:03

That's my job and I love it. This is. This is the thing for me. Changing people's lives and helping people to see that life doesn't have to be scary or uncertain or a burden.

00:37:12

This is what gets me out of bed in the morning. This is why I've done this for 23 years and This is why I'm gonna probably do it until I draw my last breath.

00:37:18

So I look forward to, you know, hearing from people and whatever you guys need, if you ever want me to come back, I'm happy to come back and talk more.

00:37:24

Cause I got a whole bunch of stuff in here.

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