Kara Milloy – Astrological Insights for Thriving in 2024

Hi and welcome to the You World Order Showcase podcast. Today we have with us Kara Milloy. Kara is a transformational astrology and emotional Wellness coach who because she believes the world needs more joy, hope and change - She is dedicated to empowering you to embrace your authentic self.

And I love that we were just talking before the show that that is so great. Welcome to the show, Kara.

Thank you so much. It's good to be.

Here my original thought for my company Thrivuary was it came out of my own healing journey. We may you may be thinking about asking this question, but just brought it up when we talked about the authentic the authenticity aspect of things and.

It the two.

Word sanctuary and thrive. And I just put them together to create Thrivuary.

And the idea of it is to move from surviving to thriving. And part of that involves embracing our most authentic self. And so my hashtag is actually be authentically you.

One of that, and it's so important.

For people to embrace on authenticity and who they are, instead of trying to be what everybody else, what they and it's not even what everybody else wants them to be. It's what they think everybody else wants them to be, which is totally wrong because everybody just wants you to be you. So they know how to deal with you.

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Percent and that is a lot of what we are breaking down collectively. And then of course individually, especially during these few years that we're in and I'll talk about that a little bit too if we want to talk about transits. But Pluto moves into Aquarius next year fully by November, but in the spring.

This it's a movement collectively toward individuation, and so that's a big part of what I'm helping people to do. Now to ready themselves for this change.

So talk to.

Me more about that.

I'm really interested in in what it means for everybody, because next year is supposed to be an amazing year. It just in terms of the energy around it and the numbers around it and.

Yeah, it definitely feels like there are going to be some big changes, dynamic changes. And so any time we have.

Stuff like that.

Anytime we have big changes, we also have resistance. You know, anytime we're think about when we are trying to develop a new habit or break a habit, right? We have these resistances because of. It's ingrained in us. And so part of what Pluto is doing. So I'm a Pluto.

Astrologer when I talk about Pluto a lot, that's the basis of the paradigm of evolutionary astrology.

And so that is what I see as the soul of the collective, or the soul of the individual, whatever chart I'm looking in. So collectively, Pluto is finishing up, transiting through the sign of Capricorn.

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Capricorn represents structure and law and authority, and also the patriarchy, and so part of what we're feeling or what we're moving through as Pluto is moving into Aquarius, is leaving the patriarchal structures.

There's things that are breaking down. We see that everywhere in the world and so.

In that we are now trying to embrace the new.

We don't know what the new is going to.

Look like yet.

It's brand new, right? So there's somewhat of a, a little bit of an insecurity that can develop within that because we just don't know, it's unfamiliar to us. So that's what I that's my passion to help people embrace their authenticity so that they can feel comfortable.

Moving in this unfamiliar territory.

Exciting. There's going to be a lot of movement where I feel the stagnant energy that we felt for the last couple of years, especially after the lockdown. I think we'll feel some freedom, hopefully.

Wow, that's looks so exciting.

That was a lot.

Really I get the whole moving out of the patriarchy into the new and you could you could feel that energy shift for like the last three years it it's been it's been steady and it it's really.

What inspired me to do what I'm doing and?

It's inspired a lot.

Of people, coaches to like step into who they are, be their authentic self and really.

Share their message with the world and it's really the whole world. It's not like 1 country or another. I talk to people from everywhere and we're all feeling the same thing. It's like there's something coming. It's going to be really cool and we all want to be part of it and we want to be part of making it.

And we want it to be this special, beautiful place where everybody has a place.

And everybody is respected and honored for who they are and what they're contributing. And we're not having to compete with each other over resources that are basically unlimited. The more we are, are authentic selves, the more abundance is created because we're contributing.

All of this energy into the big.

Energy field and so more and more can be created and brought into reality. I think everything exists at the same time that the more we focus on it and the more we work on it. Manifesting is just making to make visible so.

Manifesting all of these amazing things for each other.

Not just for ourselves.

But for each other as we are.

All connected in.

In the energy that is the.

World it's just like.

I get so excited.

That is 100. I know I get excited about it too, because exactly what you were just talking about. And of course I relate it to Astro speak, but I try to break it down obviously for my clients who aren't astrologers, but that what you were just talking about as far as manifestation and the change.

Is and so Uranus, the planet Uranus and the sign of Aquarius are connected. So when I talk about Pluto moving into Aquarius, Aquarius, we talk about. Well, if you remember the song, the age of Aquarius.

And you think about humanitarianism? We think about community. We think about groups of people that are connected and working together and sharing. And that really is a big part of that energy. The other part of it is the destabilization, though that feels a little chaotic. So that's why I think it's so important.

Well, you mentioned the resources. We have unlimited resources within us.

And that's the part where.

When we are conditioned mainly by the patriarchy to, you know, externalize a lot of our power, it's important then to come back to ourselves, to pull our power back, recognize the resources that we have within ourselves, because that's where we manifest from.

And it truly is. Everything is present with us all at the same time. That is the Aquarian field. You know, the quantum field that we create from and the energies of community and connecting to one another is absolutely what helps to bring that into focus and into the reality of the 3D World.

Yeah. And it and it's happening. We're watching it happen right now and it that's just like.

It's exciting time to be alive is as chaotic as it can be. Sometimes it really is. We get to be a part of shaping, shaping the new reality. And as you said, the when we are able to provide.

Well, when we are able to embrace our own authenticity, it gives permission for other people around us to also embrace theirs. And so those of us doing the work, the coaches and the leaders in this movement, if you will, are.

Are really offering that to people holding that space. For those of us or you know, who are struggling with that a little bit and?

Just creating that space for others to really feel like they can be themselves and a big part of the aquarian energy is also the individuation. Recognizing that I don't have to be like everybody else, I have unique qualities, and I'm here for a purpose.

Yeah, and we all.

Have and we.

All have that and we all need to exhibit it. It's OK if not everybody likes you, it's OK if.

Well, I'm having a conversation with my daughter the other day and she's like, you know, I sometimes wonder what people are thinking about me. Honey, people don't think about you. They think about themselves.

But she comes to that kind of naturally because she does wonder what other people are thinking.

And she she'll she.

Works on a on a factory line. It's one of her two jobs. One job, she's a Baker. The other job she.

Makes ice cream.

And she's about around is my finger.

That's an interesting transition.

Uh, but she does both, but she when she's standing on the line, she'll look at people and she'll wonder what they're thinking. And we're talking about, you know, sometimes when you try to imagine what other people are thinking, you're putting thoughts.

To them, that don't really exist because they're probably not thinking that that you're assigning.

Some feelings, emotions, thoughts to them that will impact how you perceive them. When it's not even real.

So it's dangerous to think about other people.

I did. That's a.

Lot of.

It can be, yeah, it can be. And that's actually a lot of what I work with sometimes with clients is this idea of projection and how we what we think someone else is thinking of us or what we think someone else expects of us or what we think society expects of us. And so it is something that's very present.

With all of us, a lot of us were conditioned that way just by society. But and some of us have it naturally. And so I guess I'll use this time to speak about.

What I would call the Pluto and Libra generation, which is basically generation X, but those souls who born are born between approximately 70.

Just depends on the retrograde, but those of us mostly born in the 70s, I'm included in that. So Libra is our relating sign and it has to do with you know it's the first social sign and it's how we are configured in relationships. And so all of us have labor, energy, some of us just have.

It's in heavier amounts, or if our Pluto is there, it's our transformational journey and.

Though a part, a lot of it is has to do with that what is expected of me or what is someone thinking of me. And so I do. I work with a lot of people that are that struggle with that particular.

This this one that I was Speaking of my youngest daughter. She's actually a Gen. Z. My oldest is a Gen. XI have like 22.

21 year.

Spread between my oldest and my youngest, so it's been interesting to watch.

How each of them meander through the?

The Zodiac.

Yeah, that is interesting. And like I said, every one of us, you know, we all have all of the archetypes within our personality. It's just how we express them, but.

I just thought I'd take a moment to at least mention that part of it, because that's a generational theme that I'm seeing a lot of clients in that process right now and collectively our nodes, the nodes of the moon, which we look at as the karmic pathway is in the relating signs of Libra.

In Aries and so a lot of us are.

Working through or recognizing you know, memories that are coming up. How do we function within relationships? How do we show up in relationships? Do we show up as our authentic self or do we live by these projections and expectations?

And so I do some couples readings as well. And that's one of the things that I.

Find is a challenge sometimes for people.

It's interesting that you're working with that that age group.

I'm kind of on the far.

The difference in dynamics I can see in different generations how there's groups of characteristics, so it makes a lot of sense to me what you're saying as far as the planetary influence over generations of people and how they interact with each other.

And the struggles that.

They're kind of trapped in. I know a lot of people in in that age group that were born, you know, between the 70s and early 80s, that they're almost every one of them that I come to think of it, is struggling with relationship issues. But just like a few years later.

Three years later.

I had another child and it's a.

Totally different dynamic.

Mic. It's so.

It's really kind of.

Of that is overcoming.

Perfectionism, and there's some issues with, you know, shame that's brought up. So those are the themes that I see with Pluto Virgos. And then of course, where it sits in your own chart, which house it's in is more specific to you because you know, to your individual person. And then we have Pluto, Scorpio, which is right after.

Pluto, Libra and they are here to confront.

They're just here to confront the depths of things. That's what Scorpio is all about. And so that's where you definitely see the difference between Pluto, leave her kids, or now they're not kids. They're adults, but they're Pluto, Libra or Pluto. Scorpio people is, you know, the libras are definitely more.

Very good.

Well, our challenge is people pleasing. You know, we want to be liked and so we want to be you.

You know, giving and things like that. And so the Pluto Scorpios are like, wait a minute. No, that's not me. I don't want to be like that. And we need to confront why we have to be like that. Exactly. And then the Pluto. So I have a Pluto Scorpio son. And then I have a Pluto, Sagittarius son. And so they are very, very different people, even though they're only born.

Don't really care what you think.

I mean Pluto sage is. Those are the people who are really they. Their empowerment journey is to find their own truth.

And some of that is within all of us, of course, but specifically that generation and you see that collectively in.

I think these are young adults now who are.

You know, I think they brought out the idea of gender.

You know no gender, non binarism transgender, more so than any other generation before because they.

It's just like they don't care. It's like you're just who you are. I'm not even going.

To assign you. Yeah, yeah.

I don't want to be defined.

That's and that's what I mean. They're standing in their truth and that's their empowerment journey. But of course, they're facing a society that's that doesn't want them to do that. So that's their challenge. Our Pluto journey is our empowerment journey. Of course, when we are becoming empowered, we have to face disempowerment. That's how we build resilience.

That's how we build.

You know.

That's how we build the resilience and then our Pluto have kids. They're here. They don't really care either. They don't care about this. They don't care about. And I don't mean they don't care in a in a negative sense, I just mean that they're here to.

To forge their own path.

Right.

They're here to, you know, create their own space for their emotional selves. And we see this, you know, with the explosion of.

Within this generation and.

It very much is pushing the rest of us to recognize where we need to hold space for our emotions, for their emotions.

Because they're connected to them in a way that we haven't been in the past.

It's just so fascinating to see all of the different bits and pieces.

Who we are as a collective and appreciate the differences and the challenges that each group is going through and yet how through the challenge as a collective, as a group.

They're contributing to changing the way the world perceives itself and.

I think it's a beautiful thing.

I think it's a beautiful thing. I love watching it. I love watching it happen.

When I when I talk about tracking the transits, because I usually do moon reports, I do a report for the new Moon and the full moon. And of course each, you know, lunation. I'm looking at the different, you know, transits where the planets are during that time frame. And so seeing the progression.

Those things is really.

It's empowering to me and it's exciting to watch, even though we have challenges that are upcoming. We can definitely see the.

The benefit that we're moving toward or the changes that we're moving toward.

It's so exciting. So.

As you're.

Helping people. Who do you help and how do you help them? How? How does your coaching practice look and like? Who would come and see you? And what would they see you about?

Yeah, that's a good question. Almost anything that is related to their emotional well-being, so we do.

You sometimes get into some trauma work. I mentioned before we started the show. I'm a retired nurse, and so I am trauma trained. I'm not necessarily licensed in that currently, so I don't call myself a counselor. That's why I'm a coach. But I am certified. And so we do sometimes.

Get into some of the trauma work. I am a Reiki master as well, so I use energy healing to help support the emotional processing.

Of the you know.

Whatever is coming up for them, but also just people who are looking to understand themselves more or get in touch with their needs, that's a big passion of what a big part of what I.

Do, especially when I do the couples sessions that we're recognizing, what is our own?

To set what I call essential emotional.

Needs so many times we either just get distracted or we don't realize that we're allowed to say this is my need or we don't know how to articulate it or ask for it. And so that's a big part of helping people with tools to work through some of that and help them feel empowered.

Another big part of what I do is boundary work and helping people set and maintain their boundaries.

That is so important.

Because the more people set boundaries, the easier they are to get.

To be with them.

100% people that don't know their boundaries is challenging because they don't know and or that if they don't know their needs, it's hard to meet them for them. So.

That's one thing that.

And you're always.

Sipping on their toes and they're like, well.

It is, yeah, it's challenging.

Love you.

That's why I.

Love evolutionary astrology and the paradigm of it because it.

We can see within the birth chart the way the soul has configured your human life.

You know whether you prescribe or subscribe to the idea of past lives, or whether you see it as a generational or you know it's in your DNA, your ancestral being. Either way, we come into this life with karmic memory. We come into this life with soul imprinting. And so that's a big part.

Sometimes what we're working through that empowerment journey.

And I lost where?

I was going with that but.

Let me see if it'll come back to me. What were you just asking me or what were you just talking about all about? Meeting needs and knowing needs.

Boundaries. We're talking about boundaries and how boundaries are. They help you to be able to relate to other people.

And when you don't have your own bound.

Tries you a tend to not respect other people's boundaries because you don't even recognize that they exist and they people have trouble relating to you because they don't know what you want or expect. And it I don't mean boundaries like.

No, I'm not going to do this because my boundaries.

There's a way to.

To just live your life and you recognize what your boundaries are and it's up to you to enforce your boundaries in a way that's polite.

Firm. You know, it's no is a perfectly fine answer. Most people don't recognize this. They say maybe or let me think on it. Think you could just say no? No, it doesn't meet my personal needs. I'm sorry. Maybe I'm not even sorry.

I'm just not doing that.

That's one of the things that I say. Yeah, that's one of the things I say quite often is no, is a complete sentence.

Somebody else.

There is no explanation required unless you want to offer one. No is a fine answer.

It is a fine answer and I wish.

More people would use it.

Just own it.

Own what you want and.

It makes it.

Again, we've been.

Useful for.

Conditioned. Yeah, we've been conditioned to not.

We have to make people OK. We have to make people feel OK.

And so if I say.

It's not our job.

No, no, it's not. And that's a.

Lot of what we are overcoming.

In these, you know these times, I mean, that's what I see a lot in in clients and that's what like I said that my generation is working through.

Yeah. And it's really hard. You know, I'm the 1st to admit it's, it's hard to stand there and say no to somebody that.

It is.

You don't because you don't want to do it, and then you end up saying yes, and then you're grudging about it and it takes away from the relationship. Whereas if you just said no, go find somebody else who wants to do this and then you guys will both be happy doing it.

Yeah, that is the big that's the big.

Thing that comes out of people pleasing is.

The idea that I'm going to say yes because I don't want to hurt your feelings or I want to make it OK between us and then what ends up happening is I'm saying no to myself. I'm stepping over my own boundary and when I do that, then I'm going to become resentful. And you know, there's disappointment involved. There's resentment that builds and that's a big part of.

Why relationships dissolve? Because they have this constant underlying.

Undercurrent of this resentment that's there when we really can own our own needs, own our own emotional you know, sense of safety then we don't rely on someone else to provide that. Now of course that's a part of relating, you know relating relationships.

But it's not the other person's responsibility to do that for us.

Right. And that's a big thing, taking responsibility for your own feelings and your own desires and your own boundaries.

And being able to express them in a way that empowers other people to be around you but doesn't.

Make you feel like you have to be less.

Step into it. It's OK and you know, honestly, if there are people that have a problem with that, they're not your people. Let.

Them go.

They're never going to be your people, no matter how much you try to make them like you. They just.

They're just belong on a different part of the puzzle, and it's OK. It's not. It's not anything bad about them. You don't even have to think they're bad people. They're just not your people.

And that's part of the challenge of letting go as well is knowing when to release a certain relationship, whether it's an intimate relationship, whether it's a friendship, whether it's a job, anything that we're really in relationship with. If it's not serving us, if it's not.

You know us a positive space for.

Us learning to say it's OK to let go of that. It's OK to walk away from that. And what does that look like for me now? There's still emotions, of course, that come along. Even if you say no and you know it's the right thing for you.

Often times then, there's still guilt that comes. There's that feeling of, oh, I should have said yes, I shouldn't have done that, or I should have went along with it. And then we fight with ourselves with the, you know, the internal dialogue that we have with our inner critic is what I call.

So there's still a part of processing that after you know, we hold the boundary and that's a part of what I do as well.

Yeah. And.

That's really helpful for people who are struggling with setting boundaries and holding those boundaries because in the beginning it's hard to hold your boundaries because of the very thing you're talking.

About but a.

Lot of that is just in your head. The other person probably isn't thinking anything. They're busy off trying to find somebody to do that thing that they wanted you to do.

That you didn't want to.

And they're all. They're out there looking for somebody because they don't want to do it themselves.

There's not, like do it yourself or just let.

It go, I don't care.

Just don't wrote me into it.

Yes, I know. Yeah.

And sometimes we're just calling them on.

It is enough.

Sometimes and that's.

That's another part of the relational stuff that I talk about is the accountability, you know, being accountable to yourself and being accountable to your partner or whoever you're in relationship with and allowing them to be accountable as well.

Holding people accountable and allowing them to feel their emotions the way they feel them, not feeling responsible for other people's emotions, is also a big part of how we handle this idea of codependency. I'm a recovering codependent, so I absolutely know what that's all about.

And so that is a big part of my passion for helping people also over.

Become that what I do want to clarify, I guess with that, because codependency kind of get gets this wrap of how awful it is and it can cause a lot of problems.

But as humans, we are meant to be interdependent, and that kind of goes back to what we were talking about at the beginning. The idea of humanity, the idea of community, we absolutely are meant to be interdependent on one another. There's just a difference between giving up your own sense of sovereignty for someone else or putting yourself.

Last, for someone else to be first.

It's more about, you know, the balance between them.

It's two whole people coming together rather than two halves make.

That doesn't work.

The idea, yeah.

The idea of my better half or my other half and I mean yes, it's another half of a relationship, but it does you don't require someone else to make.

Right. You are yourself. You're both unique. You're not the same person, and you shouldn't be.

And you can.

Appreciate what's great about the other person and you can recognize the things that.

That drive you crazy about each other?

And you can recognize that things about each other that.

Can destroy the relationship if you detach a little bit.

You don't push each.

Other's buttons.

After being married for 28 years, that was.

The one thing I have told all my kids and all their relationships and all my kids have really great relationships with their spouses that you don't push the other person's.

Buttons. It's just it's not.

I mean, we're going to do it inadvertently because that's part of how we how it is. But to do it on purpose and yeah, it's not helpful. It's not helpful and.

It's not helpful.

It doesn't build the trust, it doesn't build the vulnerability that's required.

Yeah, yeah, it tears it down.

So how can people get in touch?

With you, Kara.

That's a good question.

The best way is through my website astroKara.com. You can e-mail me there's a link on my website at the bottom or it's just Kara, Kara at astroKara.com.

Right.

Help you with.

And I do also like to say that if I if I feel that I'm not the practitioner for you, I do also have a.

Referral several referral partners who I have available that if I can't meet your need then I can at least try to get you to someone who can.

That's awesome. That's awesome.

So what's the one thing you want to leave the audience with? What do you hope they'll?

Take away from our conversation.

I think the empowerment is the biggest thing that.

Ownership of your own empowerment is important, and it's possible.

It's your responsibility, and sometimes we need help and that's when you can reach out.

The other part that I would just love to leave you with is on my website. My well, if you do astroKara.com/catalyst spelled like that. That is my coaching program and there's a page about that. If you're interested in learning more about it.

Let me help empower you.

Thank you so.

Much for joining.

Me this has been a great conversation.

I love it. Thank you so much.

For inviting me.