Jo Davis – Your Intuitive Superpower: A Conversation on Self-Discovery

Hi and welcome to the You World Order Showcase podcast. Today we are speaking with Jo Davis. Jo is on a mission to show ordinary people how to tap into their intuitive superpower. That sounds exciting and interesting. Welcome to the show, Jo.

Thank you so much for having me. I'm excited to have this conversation.

Me too. We were just talking about all the things.

When you get.

To be our age, you've done so many things. It's just like, oh, I forgot. I'm an author. Oh, I forgot. I've written all these things. Oh, I forgot I did this. I'm an artist. But today she's here to talk to us about lift.

Sister up I love.

So tell us all about it.

So yeah, it's really funny. I went through a season of my life about it's about nine years ago and I had a great job. I had lots of friends I worked with at work. And you know, you naturally become friends with the people you work with. And I thought we were all this, like, happy family and I got let go from my job.

Everyone I was working with just sort of vanished. They kind of disappeared. They sort of.

Went on with.

Their lives and I was just devastated and I thought.

I and I looked around at my circle of friends at the time and I thought, why am I surrounded by people that either I can't count on or I thought we were like so close and it was just a story I wrote in my head and I sat with that alone in my house and sad and.

Rather devastated and I thought, you know, we attract what we are.

So if I want to attract some Rockstar, amazing friendships and divine opportunities in my life.

I better step up and be that and so that's where I created lift the sister up. It's just a nice, safe place for women to land and encourage each other and support each other and cheer each other.

On and in the process of working on myself, a lot of really remarkable people just sort of found me and connected with me and supported me.

Kind of match my energy of that sacred space that I really, you know, you got to go through some heartache to sort of figure out what serves your highest good and.

What doesn't and?

Sometimes life naturally curates that space for you, and so that was me. I had lots of nudges and whispers, and I didn't pay attention. And so that's what I got was that big old smack down. And it was the best thing that ever happened to me. And that's how it started. And it just sort of has exploded from that space into.

Everything from retreats to new friendships and adventures, coursework, teaching other women.

And how to you know, step in their own power and honor their sacred space as well. So pretty magical.

It's really magical.

It's one of those things that you just.

You find your mission and then everything just sort of falls into place and the right people come and you get to meet such interesting and amazing people out there that are.

They're a lot.

Different from you, but they're doing something slightly different.

Or really different.

It's fascinating. People are fascinating, absolutely.

They really are, and they all offer something so unique.

Part of why I love doing what I'm doing is because I get to talk to people that are doing such interesting and unique things that are just like really making a big difference in the world.

What you talked about doing retreats and things like that. I know you're in Mexico right now, do you?

Do them down there or.

Yeah, we are traveling right now. We're traveling abroad in Mexico and we're in this quaint little town in the Highlands, which is like in the dead center of Mexico. Everyone always thinks we're near the beaches. And I'm like.

You know there's only beaches on the edges.

It's like a huge, huge country, you know, Mexico City is, I think the 5th largest city in the world. So I just, I giggle because I thought that too kind of like, you know, you live in Idaho and you have to go. OK. So when people think about Idaho, what do they think about?

You know, Idaho potatoes, they don't think about technology. They don't think about community. They don't think about the diversity of the state of Idaho, which is beautiful. So yeah.

We're the number one producer of cobalt.

It's not wild, it's so wild, so. And I was born in Idaho, so that's another fun thing that that we chatted about. But, you know, there's just.

So much to be gained in humility and knowledge when you're traveling abroad, especially me learning a new language. So being able to put on retreats is like a nice way to kind of bring people into the fold when there's someone that's already here, that sort of laid the groundwork and.

It becomes this really magical experience for my clients, so.

It's a lot of fun.

Are you doing them on kind of?

Thematically, will you be doing some after the first of the year?

Yep, February the end of February. We're actually doing one, it's.

Called the release retreat. I'm sure we'll do more, but it's release retreat. 7 days of miracles and it's clients that have gone through my course. Big mess to Big Magic. But almost all of my clients are in.

Actually, I would say all of my clients are impasse. I'll correct myself or they probably wouldn't find me and we're just we've been teaching them how to unplug and tap into their intuitive gifts. There's so many people out there that are carrying, like Ricks of anxiety in their life and they think it's theirs.

And I giggle because I'm like you. You know, you're really OK, right? Like you're really kind of a rock star. You're really gifted. You're really powerful. You're all of these things. But you think you are walking, fall of anxiety. And when they learn that it's not even their anxiety that it's.

Them, you know, absorbing everyone's energy around them and everyone's nerves around them because they're not honoring their sacred space. No one teaches us how to do that. And so once they learn how to honor that sacred space, they can sort of, you know, be a witness of their awareness. Just sort of watching people coming and going in situations and they're.

Holding their own and they're not having to put up walls or boundaries, they can just be this big ball of light.

And things that don't serve them just naturally bounce off of.

Them it's a much more magical, effortless way to live.

And I think we have these gifts of intuition for a reason, and we don't use them. Look, we can link every almost every traumatic event in our life back to not listening to our gut.

You know, some things are unavoidable, but there's a chunk of things out there that.

We just weren't listening and there were signs and red flags and.

So it's a beautiful thing when you can quiet that down and then open up this whole other phenomenal part of our heart and our brain that can sort of work together in this dance to keep us safe and to help us manifest and.

Oh gosh, then it gets fun. Then it gets fun.

Magic I think really happens once you start.

Allowing yourself to realize that you are this creative human being and you do have power. You are so powerful and to get beyond the programming that we all grew up with or, you know, sit in the corner and be quiet and do your menial task and we'll give you your 4 pence and.

Be grateful you get a day off every week. See how lucky you are.

And the people that you're enslaved with, they aren't really your friends, and they're just as miserable as you are. And when you surround yourself with that vibration, it just like it wears you down and wears you out. I think it's why, you know, people caught up in that they die early because they're just, they have nothing else. They don't realize that.

And if they?

Could just break through. Crack that wall. That's between them and the reality that they really like to experience just like.

With the mad cats.

The game changer, game changer and things become more effortless and fluid. I always say if things feel really hard, look at your intention behind the goal. You may have to clean up your intention a little bit if things look really hard. What is the resistance? Where is the resistance?

Like, how is that linked to your deepest fears?

How is it muddy?

And you know, we clean up our space. You know, our food.

Sometimes our family, friends, our work environment, we start honoring ourselves and stop trying to prove our goodness because we're raised to prove our goodness because it keeps us in line. You know, if Jesus isn't watching, Santa Claus is watching. I mean, there's this huge.

I mean, I'm sure the last you know, third of the year, the last quarter of the year, I was much more easy to manage as a kid because Santa's coming.

Yeah. So you know we're taught to sort of navigate the world in a very inauthentic, sort of dishonest way. It's not our natural nature to be quiet and sit down in the corner. And, you know, we want to color on the walls, and we want to write, and we want to play and.

We want to create.

I think there's a way to have. Yeah. Daydream. I think there's a way to have order and creativity in the world and listen to our intuition. And, you know, build our purpose on this planet, our sacred contract. I think we make it very complicated and it does not have to.

Be so complicated.

I think it's more for controlling us than anything else. It's not. You know, when you when you don't control people, then creativity thrives.

And it may look like chaos, but it's really not. It balances out. The chaos happens when you have that pressure to conform, put down on a group of people that are creative by nature. We are born creators. We are born perfect. We are good, we are born.

Good. I don't care why religion tells.

You. You're not, they're.

Wrong. You are born good and you have.

A purpose and your.

You are divine, not divinely made, but you are divine just by virtue of the fact that you are a soul living a human experience in this body. And you know, once you get that peace and.

Can just like.

If we could.

Just teach our kids that.

You know, if they were just raised with that.

It's so funny. It's so funny that you say this because I was listening to someone the other day talking and I was like, exactly. And I won't get a word for word. But I've been saying this for years. You'll be, like, exactly. But babies love them.

Selves, they love themselves madly. They love their fingers and their toes, and they're just excited to be here and they don't ask for much like basic needs they.

They're fascinated.

Mesmerized by lights and movement. And.

They're mesmerized by things in the room that we can't even see. I mean, babies are absolutely magical, and I think when it comes full circle, that's the point.

Because if you love yourself madly, you'll honor your sacred space. You'll make good decisions. Good for honoring your body, your heart, your mind, your spirit, and you'll attract more of those things that serve your highest good. So I think it's really full circle. You know, we're raised to be docile and manageable.

And we are raised to be congruent.

You know, I don't think that that's really in our nature. We do need solid foundation. We do need grounding. But that playful space is where all the good stuff comes from.

All the good stuff and that playful space includes loving ourselves, ridiculously like madly, madly loving ourselves.

And being able to laugh and be silly.

And you know.

So let your.

Body is aged. You still can enjoy things and express that joy in a way that.

Freezes the vibration and the room around you.

Yeah. And the earlier in life, we honor our sacred space. The more physically able we are to enjoy.

As we age and get older. So yeah, it all kind of comes around. None of you know there's a there's a price for not doing the work.

And it it's a. It's a check that people someday may not be able to cash. So I think it's important that the earlier we really learned that radical self love that listening to our guy.

You know those nudges and whispers? Those intuitive hits, you know, the more quiet we're able to get in our minds and honor this experience. And, you know.

Listen to those nudges and whispers. I think the sooner we do that, the more epic our later years get instead of lesson after lesson after lesson after lesson. Because we're not getting.

Point those are fun.

Not numbing yourself along the way. There's a lot of people do that different forms, but.

When you when you're present.

And not numbing.

You. You're.

Able to see the magic that happens around you and the signs and the things that just you miss. If you're really busy or if you're numb.

And they're subtle, but they're so powerful.

When they happen.

It's so much fun. It's so it becomes a very playful space to go. Let's see what happens today.

And I find it interesting because, you know, I've never met an addict.

Or I don't work with people that are active in addiction, but I do have clients that are recovering addicts and I've never met an addict. That's not an impact.

And I think well, no wonder, you know, they're having this anxiety. And I know people personally, I'm not close to, but I know them personally who take a lot of medications for anxiety, and it's almost like when you look at their energy, their souls here and their physical bodies here. But there's no connection.

And it's like, you know, they've had trauma. And so of course they distance themselves from their heart space and their soul and their guttural instincts. They're like, oh, I can't trust myself. So they've separated from themselves in that trauma. And then they're continuing to take medication for anxiety. And I, you know, I'm like, wow, I wish the world knew that.

The majority of our anxiety, it's not even ours.

It's because we're not honoring our space. We haven't done some a little bit of work, you know, and we honor that space. And then all of a sudden.

I'm able to go. Oh, that's Jill stuff.

You know that's I'm going to send that back to her with love. I'm feeling anxious. What is the deal? I don't be thing to.

Be anxious about oh, Jill's anxious and she was just in the room with me. Or she's sitting next to me on the on the couch, or we're driving somewhere together. Why do I feel anxious? And I have to look over at Jill driving and say.

Are you anxious? Because I feel really anxious and I don't have a reason to be. You know, you're really. You're catching on to it. And I joke because I tell my clients all the time. Be careful because empaths make great narcissists.

Because it's me, me, me. I'm feeling all this anxiety. I just want everyone to get along around me. I just want everyone around me to be OK and.

Then we become these just twisted caregiver archetypes and hero archetypes, and the martyr. So I just, I look at the spinning cycle of chaos. That's all up here and all in here and.

There's an easier way.

That's not the life we're.

Meant to live for sure.

No, it's not. And the idea that everybody's on their own journey and it's OK for them to be in their own mess, you know, they're either going to be the victim or the hero of their own story. But the choice is theirs. It's not ours as in.

Paths to try to fix it for them, and I personally have been responsible for that for most of my adult life. Actually most of my life and in general. And when I finally caught on to that, really my anxiety because I had anxiety all the time. But it was anxious.

For every everybody.

Else, it's like, Oh my God, if you don't stop doing that, this is. This is probably what's going to.

Happen to you and.

It's like, OK, well, that's probably what's going to happen to them, but it's their journey and.

They'll either get through it or they won't, but it's not up to me and not my job to fix them.

If I can help them I'll help them, but they need to ask.

Ask for the tissue.

I don't need to offer the tissue.

I don't have anything to prove. I'm here if you need me. I have tissues. Let me know how I can help you. I'll be right here. I'll.

Hold space for you.

But I don't need to stop your.

But it's over here and you have to come and get in that space. I'm not going to bring the space to you.

And that's a big lesson for people who are.

And I'm and I'm not going to stop your pain because it's so uncomfortable for me.

You know, I see a lot of people that are, they're very helpful and they're very like.

I'm super helpful and loving and I'm like you're an ******* and they don't understand what that means. And I'm saying.

You're not sleeping well. You're not eating well, but you're bleeding out for everyone. You've missed the point.

You know, honor your sacred space and then be around for many years to love and help other people around you as they ask for it.

I'm just always amazed with you that you can find someone and no one would ever say a negative thing about them. They're so nice. They're so kind. They're so generous and I'm like, no, they're not.

Because they don't know how to book the massage. You know they don't know how to say no. They don't know how to.

Eat, eat. You know where they're listening to their body. That's good for me. That's not, you know. And so I.

You know it's. It's again how we were raised. A lot of us is proving that goodness that we're worthy, that we're enough. And so we.

Pour into everyone around us, but we don't honor this and I don't think you have a.

Right on this planet, you haven't earned the right to show up for other people.

Until you first understand how to show up for yourself.

Because even in showing up for people, it's twisted and self-serving. If you can show up for someone and because it brings you joy and you've slept well and you feel solid and you can handle it and it's not about you, you're just showing up because you're good at something. You have the time, you have the energy and it brings you joy.

It'll always turn out well, but it never fails. If you show up to prove.

Goodness, worthiness, yadda and you haven't first done your work.

Something it's just it's not going to end well. You're either. I mean, adrenal fatigue is real.

That Israel.

Autoimmune diseases are real.

You know.

There's a there's a cost, there's a price.

There really is and it's.

It makes me feel good when I see.

People stepping up and talking about this and I I'm hoping that future generations are raised with the idea that they are enough and you know who they are is who they are. It's OK.

And I do see some of that going on and in some of the younger kids, their parents are letting them just be people and not making judgments on them. And.

Pushing them into things that don't align.

With who they are.

You know, and I even think things like the homeschooling movements are really good. They allow kids to just be kids most of the time.

They can learn.

To read you.

Can really learn everything you need to know in.

About two years.

When you have the.

Brain power to do it.

Yeah. And what's interesting about that too is, you know, the front of the brain develops at different rates for boys versus girls and some people even talk about how math, there's certain levels of math that you can't even begin to wrap your brain around until your brain has aged to a certain, you know, place for you.

You know, which is why like now I'm learning a language. But in high school I could never stick with Spanish.

I mean, granted, I'm a little more immersed here and it's not easy, but my brain, you know, learning a.

Language is basically.

Programming or formulating so it's like coding so you're coding well, that's sort of a math skill as well as a language skill. So now I'm absorbing it.

Much more quickly.

Than when I was in in in high school.

Or middle school.

So yeah, it's interesting.

In learning languages, I used to think of it as synonyms for words, and when you're young you don't really.

Have that big of a vocabulary, so trying to find other words for the same word isn't as fun or interesting. But when you learn another language, you're.

I used to have to translate in my head. I couldn't just like form the.

Words. But some people who are really good at languages, they can think in another language.

They just have all of the pieces there that.

It's just, it's just part of who they are. It's not like they're going back and forth.

I used to have to go back and forth.

Yeah, I'm. I'm it's, it's.

It's not easy. I'm it's in Poco, you know, like a little by little because, you know, it's just a lot. But you know, it's good to travel, it's good to learn respect and humility for other cultures. And I think it's very important, especially for young people to travel.

Little by little.

But yeah, yeah, I love that the world is sort of looking at things a little bit differently now or at least in the circles I'm in very open minded very you know.

You know, it's funny. In my course, I always talk about.

I try to keep it very simple because it's almost like the crash course for life. It's like 4 sessions, it's like.

My gosh, I mean, I think I've read.

Probably hundreds of.

Books at least 100. Taking all of that information and going OK. If we had five years left to live, what information can I share with the client or student? They can transform their life in 30 days.

So I've been outline. I use, but then most of it is very intuitive like it intuitively flows through me. What I need to share with them how I need to, you know, work with them specifically and uniquely to where they're at in their life, but.

I always say that if you think about the world like there's nine, you know, 8 or 9 billion lanes on this highway and we're all going to kind of end up in the same.

Area right? The same destination, whatever that looks like and we're all in these lanes and I'm in my crazy clown car.

And you're in your crazy.

Clown car.

And we might share a lane for a minute like we're having.

A moment here this.

Is awesome, right? And I'm cheering you. You know out my window, cheering you on out of my crazy clown car. And you're, like woo girl. Let's shine a light on what you're doing. It's so wonderful, right? But I'm not going to climb into your crazy clown car and you shouldn't climb into mine either.

You may not get out like you don't want to climb up in there. You don't know what's going on, right? But we're honoring each other and.

I did a post a couple days ago and I said can we all just mind our own damn business?

Like, why do we do this thing where we, you know, have to jump in here and jump in here? Why can't we cheer each other on and hold space for each other without making it about us and our goodness? Like, why can't we just, you know, see a person struggling and there's a difference between seeing someone attacked on the street and doing nothing.

Versus I really have all this inner work to do and I have all this childhood trauma, but instead I'm going to self medicate and I'm going to, you know, put my nose in everybody else else's business and I'm going to be the giver and the doer and the PTA mom and the, you know, going to show up for everybody else. And I'm going to try to.

You know, curate their lives.

I mean, I'm just. I look at it.

People pleasers.

Yes, I look at it and I'm like, you know our breath on this planet makes us worthy.

Our first cry as a baby boom. You're worthy. You don't have to do anything else.

You know this, this proving and this way the world sees us.

I did a talk a couple about a month or two ago in Dallas, Fort Worth on the courage to be disliked.

And I'm like.

Whole room full of women.

Little room full of women and I'm like we got a problem.

This is like a problem. It's like an epidemic, you know, like.

You know how many of you have careers that your parents encourage you to have and you're miserable? How many of you like you know? And I started telling, I said, you know, shout out. Tell me something in your life that's not going well or that isn't going the way you want it. Or tell me something you want more of in your life. And I'll tell you how it's.

Connected to your lack of courage.

I will break it down.

And it was really interesting, like there was a lot of aha moments in that room because.

I get it like we've all been there, like, especially women. I don't know, man. Women. I don't know what end of the stick we got, but boy, did we kind of, uh, have somebody climb up in our brains and move our furniture around and say this is how it's supposed.

To be I just it's so twisted and it's when you untwist it all and you just step back and look at it.

You know the ghost of regret? They're standing around our deathbed someday. How many people you want in the room? How many ghosts you want?

You know, let's make decisions that Honor our sacred space and that really are about loving ourselves so simple, so simple, and get comfortable disappointing people. It's going to happen anyway. It's just a matter of time. Be kind, but be honest. I mean, I just.

I think there's a very clean way to.

Operate, but it becomes.

Really about making choices and I teach my students as if you had five years left to live. Are you going to accept that dinner invitation? Maybe not.

If you had five years left to live.

You're going to keep that job you're showing up to.

Every day that you hate.

If you had five years left to live, are you going to spend more?

One more.

Family Christmas with a in a in a room full of.

Toxic covert narcissists.

We'll get you all spun up and it takes you 3 weeks to recover from that visit home. Probably not.

So I just think there's a simple, much more simple way to function.

In this lifetime, it is so short we gotta stop screwing around.

I agree 100%, but it's just about making different choices and and showing up for yourself and recognizing.

It doesn't matter if other people don't like you. You don't have to like them. You can make the decision to walk into a room and figure out who's interesting to you.

Do they like me? Do they like me? I don't care. Do I like them? Spend some time with?

That thought, am I going to like these people are.

These my people spend some time there, yeah.

Are these my people?

Yeah, yeah. And I find that people I meet that everyone loves.

I am very concerned.

Because if everyone loves you, when have you spoken up?

When have you stood up for someone else that ticks somebody else off?

If you're in.

This in this space are you a politician?

Because if you don't speak up for something, so I, you know, I always used to look at people. Oh, everybody loves them, blah, blah, blah. And I used to think that was really good. And then I get really close to them. And then I think when I leave the room, what's that conversation going to look like?

When I get up from that table.

Are they celebrating me or are they speaking highly of me, or do they have, you know, are they sending good energy my way when I leave the table, or are they what what's happening there? Because I this is a really actually kind of a recent lesson, like really recent. I've learned it over and over and over again. Clearly I didn't really learn.

It I just.

It was the whisper, the whisper, the whisper, and the smack down. But I'm really looking at relationships, you know, interpersonal relationships very different.

You know, I will take.

Forgive me, but I will take resting bitchface direct, honest kind. What you see is.

What you get any?

Day over warm, fuzzy. Mushy. Shady.

Needs to be liked by everyone because I don't know how to it as I get older. I'm sure you're recognizing this too, Jill. As I get older, I'm recognizing the value of my space.

You know, and I really feel like, gosh, I want to be around integrity filled people that love me so much. They'll tell me when I'm going the wrong direction or that's not good for you or I don't have a good feeling about that like I want.

People around me that you know you have broccoli in your teeth. I mean start there, start with those friends.

Yeah, real people, yeah.

OK.

Yeah, I don't. I don't have a.

Lot of friends.

At this point in my life, I'm just like.

I read a meme the other day. I was telling a client. Actually, I was telling a client this morning about it and I said she goes, I don't know. I don't know how much I like people lately, and I just said I read a meme and it said I've done so much personal.

Work. But now I don't like anybody.

But I appreciate them all. Like they're all fascinating and beautiful, but I don't know if you know, maybe I'm OK to sit at the dinner.

Table alone for a bit.

And keep working on me for a.

Minute, which isn't really. You know, we're humans. We need. We need to interact. But it just made me giggle. So fun.

But it's true. I mean, I feel that way personally, but I like being around people. I just don't need to be around people. I can go and be around people and appreciate their uniqueness. And I can appreciate what's really special about them. And I can ignore the things that are irritating.

About them, because we all have those things.

Things that rub people the wrong way.

And in small doses.

I love it.

But I don't have the need to be around people to have them build me up to make.

Me feel worth, you know, taking up space on the planet. And that was a problem for me for a long time. It was just like I would look around to like, who's going to like me so that.

I can feel like I'm I have value as a human being.

And I just don't.

Care anymore? We. We call that noise, that's what.

I call it.

Like, oh, you got a lot of noise around you. What? What work?

Are you avoiding? Yeah.

You know what, what are? What are you avoiding? If you have to get drunk at every get together, something's going on there. Those aren't your people, you know, if you have to fill every night of the week because you can't be quiet with your own mind, I think it was Albert Einstein said if a man was left alone with his own mind, he'd go mad.

Let's see.

I'm like I.

I see that, yeah.

They've done studies where they've taken people that they've put in solitary confinement for long periods of time and.

They do go crazy. A lot of them. Just.

It rewires your brain. It shuts down parts of your brain. They actually kind of go dormant. You lose blood flow.

It's a real thing. You're right.

It's kind of.

Kind of scary when you think about they do this to people on purpose as punishment.

For some perceived transgression.

So you went and.

Got some books before we started.

Do you want to tell us about those books?

I did so. I've been on this author this this collaborative author journey. So these are the books right now.

That I can.

Self love. I like that.

Oh yeah, it's saucy and all my writing is very saucy. So I always tell people I'm like, you know, when you read my contributions to these books just.

Be warned.

My idea of kindness is not warm and fuzzy and squishy. My idea of kindness is also.

A little gritty and sharp and raw and real and direct and honest because that's what I want. You know, I want to be surrounded by those raw, real, gritty, honest people. What you see is what you get. So all of these books are really.

And exercise of love, all of them. The proceeds go back to nonprofits and supporting other women in their personal growth or random acts of kindness around the world. It's super funny, too, because there's another Jo Davis that's an author, and she writes like.

Saucy romance novels.

That's not me. I'm sure she's lovely. That's probably not even a real name. But I'm the other Jo Davis. So when you're looking, you may have to Scroll down a little bit.

Because I think.

She's got, like, a ton of books.

But yeah, I love the idea of collaborative projects. I really encourage people out there that are wanting to write like, do a collaborative project. You know, it's just a little bit like putting your foot in the water. It's not all the weight on you to publish a book and you're putting out positivity in the world, especially, you know, when the prophets are able to go to helping.

And blessing and contributing to other people in need.

So yeah.

I think that's amazing. And it really is. It goes towards the cooperation.

Theme that I'm really pushing these days.

Where we can all honor.

The gifts of each other without having to be the best at everything, just be the best at the one thing that you're really.

Gifted at and.

Appreciate the gifts of those around you. And as women, if we can get into that habit, we can lift the whole world up because we really do make a difference.

OK.

Ohh yeah.

Yeah. And, you know, it's funny too, Jo, because I know there were some times in my life when I was really struggling, it was hard for me to watch other people's.

Success because that inner chatter in my brain was like, you're not doing enough if you haven't achieved this goal lately. Blah blah blah. Like I can remember ripping a vision board off the wall because I was like it was. It became my nemesis.

Because I was like, oh, I've accomplished all these things. And then I started obsessing about the things I had. And I was like, oh.

You're going in the trash, so I tossed the best day ever. But you know, I love the space of.

You know.

Really supporting each other, encouraging each other, but when you?

Can't just get quiet on your blinders? You know, harness your own skills and talents that don't look like anybody elses. You do you, Boo.

And don't worry about what anyone else is doing and if you're not in a position, you don't have the energy to be an encourager or a supporter or cheering other people on.

It's OK.

Just put your head down and do you.

And then when you come up.

What ends up happening is you naturally start attracting people that want to, you know, magnify your light and amplify your work. And, you know, I'm fascinated by the people that reach out. They want to, hey, how can I help you?

You know, so you honor your sacred space. First you do.

Work and then the natural side effect of that is amazing people. You know the things you dream about, the things you desire, the the relationships and experiences and adventures, this whole thing. It just sort of trickles down. But it all starts with self love. It all starts with honoring your space. It all starts with eating while sleeping.

Well, getting rid of crappy people in your life that don't want to see you, you know, succeed or your bright light irritates their demons.

So it just is a natural thing. It's a natural side effect, it's.

Pretty effortless once you figure out the formula.

I agree. So how do people get in touch?

With you, if they want to work with.

You, or if they just.

Want to get your books?

Easiest way and actually you can go to my website and when you sign up for my e-mail list you can actually get this for free.

The download, which is a great book.

It's like radical.

Self love See held up.

Radical self love.

Right. I know it's I was very.

The podcast, both radical folk love and it's pink and.

It's pink with a blue.

Little blue paint pot.

Jessica Hughes was the phenomenal orchestrator of, you know, bringing all of us writers together with our stories.

It hit international bestseller I believe in four countries.

In like 22 categories, but if you look up radical self love Jo Davis, it should.

Pop up.

But you can get that PDF for free on my website which is www.liftassisterup.com.

That we'll be sure to put that.

In the show.

Notes below. So.

Jo, what's the one thing you want?

To leave the audience with today so much.

So many things, so many things. I think that Biggie for me is.

Most of us have this guttural sense, this pole, this, this knowing in our belly, you know that.

We could be living.

A better way that we could be like something's missing or it shouldn't be this much chaos or it shouldn't.

Be this hard or.

It's so noisy. I'm so anxious all the time. We have this feeling that something is off.

And I would just say, you know, hire me to help you or.

Book a massage. Hire me to help you or look around at the friends and family in your life and figure out who's deserving of your sacred space, who's not, who hasn't earned a space there.

And start curating things and naturally the herd bends, you know, figure out what brings you joy and do a little bit of that every day and it shifts your.

Frequency. It naturally shifts your frequency and it changes your environment. It changes what's going on around you. It you know, then it's the herd.

I always say that doing little things, the little things were always more important than the big things.

The little things we do every day, you know where we put our head, where we put our heart, our intention, our time, our energy.

Those little things we do every day, if we start sort of tweaking those.

It doesn't have to end up being this big smack down where you're in a life or death situation looking around, going.

You know, I know with COVID a lot of people, really it brought a lot of things to our attention about who's really going to show up.

For us in need.

You know, how do neighbors take care of each?

Other you know, so I really feel like it's always good to have help. You can always get there faster when you work with somebody, especially with this work. But if that's not something you're ready for, do little things every day to honor your sacred space.

And you know, really figure out and be mindful observing others like, what's my anxiety and what's yours. And if I'm feeling all of your anxiety.

What is it that I'm not doing that I should be doing? How am I not honoring my sacred space because all of that wouldn't be working.

Its way in if you didn't have those cracks and crevices that you hadn't healed.

I couldn't get in there.

So let's be different.

I love that.

Yeah, let's show up for ourselves differently.

And it's a very conscious choice and we do it all day long.

All day long.

Being present and being aware of.

Of your situation and be good with you know, when you do.

Arrive and at.

Some point you do arrive, and maybe in spits and spurts, but you can get to a place where you can just appreciate the way.

Your life is.

And that's good too.

Gratitude is your superpower. You want to raise your frequency, attract with things in your life, you obsess on things. I mean, people obsess on their weight. They obsess on their career. They obsess on helicopter parenting.

Obsess on gratitude.

Going to change your life in in seven days, 14 days, 21 days, 30 days. Obsessing gratitude. Make it like your crack. Like your addiction, like your doctor pepper. Whatever it is, obsess on gratitude and.

All of a sudden that frequency starts to change and all of a sudden things start showing up to be more grateful.

For it's magic.

Ohh, there's so many hacks, there's so many great hacks. We make it so hard don't we?

We do. It was so great. Good.

To chat with you about the positive things that we can do to.

Enjoy our lives and live the lives.

We really were created to live.

Thanks for joining me, Jo.

it's been an honor. Thank you so much, Jo.