Stop Waiting, Start Living: Reclaiming Power, Confidence & Intuition in Midlife with Holly Toscanini

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Are you a woman in midlife, feeling like you've been waiting for the right time to finally live the life your soul's been whispering about

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: in this episode. We're unpacking. Why so many of us get stuck in that loop, and how learning to trust yourself

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: can become the most radical and liberating thing you ever do, plus our guest shares a powerful soul aligned approach that goes beyond traditional coaching to help you reclaim your voice, your health, and your purpose from the inside out. Hi, and welcome to the You world order, showcase, podcast where we feature life, health, and transformational coaches

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: being the change they seek in the world. I'm your host, Jill Hart, the coach's alchemist on a mission to help coaches and entrepreneurs, amplify their voice, monetize their mission and get visible leverage, leveraging podcasts and the sub stack

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: platform. Today we are chatting with holly, Tuscanini. Holly is an empowerment coach for midlife. Women who are ready to stop putting their lives on, hold and embrace the confidence to live fully. Right now, after years of chasing perfection and feeling stuck, she discovered the transformative power of self-trust and intuitive healing. Welcome to the show. Holly.

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Holly Toscanini: Hello! Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to be here.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, I'm really excited for this conversation, too, because I think this is one of those things that so many women struggle with, especially as you know, we hit that 40. It's like this big dark sign. You're at the top of the hill. This is the best it's ever going to be.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: No, it's not.

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Holly Toscanini: It's really not.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So let me ask you the big question, and then we'll dive right in. So, in your opinion, what's the most significant thing we can do as individuals to make an impact on how the world is going.

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Holly Toscanini: This is going to pertain specifically to women. So forgive me for any men that may be listening. But I think for women specifically the most important thing we can do is to reclaim our power over our own narratives and over our bodies.

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Holly Toscanini: and what I mean by that is, we have been taught our entire lives to be somewhat subservient, and to be chasing this dream of

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Holly Toscanini: physical perfection. Youth and thinness are the 2 qualifying factors for being valuable or worthy as a woman. And you know, when you look back in history, it's really only been the last 60 years or so that we've been able to do as many things as we are doing now, even something like owning property or having a bank account.

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Holly Toscanini: So we really need to embrace how far we've come, but not rest on our laurels. We really need to reclaim our own personal narratives and decide what's right for us. We need to be able to feel confident enough to redefine what beauty, value, and success mean to us as women, especially as we are aging.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes, I could not agree with you more. I you know to me

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: so many women look at life and think, oh, I'm done with my childbearing years.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: There's something wrong with me. No women go through more phases in life than men do, and when you are done with your childbearing years.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: whether you have kids or not. That is the most valuable time of your life. You you're moving into the crone phase, and I love that word.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you know, if my hair would turn wild words so happy about it.

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Holly Toscanini: Crone to me has always sort of brought up these images of you know, when you're little, and you see the Disney Snow White witch with the apple to me. That's sort of what crones look like. And what's so funny to me is that you know what makes a crone. It's well, we start to get little strange growths on our faces. We start to get, you know, kind of hair that is not smooth and perfect. It's a little wiry and weird, and you know, so they're defining

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Holly Toscanini: all of those things in a negative light. And while chrome does have a certain power to it, I kinda like I don't know like I would rather, instead of Maiden Mother Crone. Maybe we can do maiden mother, master, or something like that, because, as you just.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'm an alchemist. So yeah, I.

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Holly Toscanini: Oh, let's change it. Midlife isn't the end of the story right? It's it's a time when we can look back on all of those years of experience and

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Holly Toscanini: knowledge, wisdom really rewriting our story, especially in a culture that tells women their worth declines as they get older. I really want to flip the script on that entirely, and encourage women to reclaim their power as they become older, and I think my work really speaks directly to the heart of the midlife woman who's tired of performing or proving, or even punishing herself with with crazy diets and whatnot, and she's really ready to start believing in herself and what she's capable of again.

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Holly Toscanini: So it's more than just being inspired to live a better life. This work really delivers a sense of liberation and

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Holly Toscanini: a process to be able to start doing that for yourself. It's a permission slip, really, so you can stop striving, stop trying to shrink yourself and and stop waiting for someday, and and really begin to live your life now, because someday really is now.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, it's the whole external validation thing that we're trained as women

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: to. You know you have to depend on somebody else to validate your worth. And it, you know it's always like trying to be enough.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Marissa Pierce was like life changing for me with her. You are enough.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You're a human being. You're enough.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah. And you know it. Just it kills me when you see images of midlife women on social media. And it seems like the only reason they are ever

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Holly Toscanini: worthy of appearing is they're in a bathing suit. They're they're rocking a little black dress. They have rock, hard, abs super toned leg. It doesn't matter that they're 40 or 50, and brilliant and accomplished and amazing at what they do. The only thing that gets them noticed is, can she still fit into a bathing suit, and does she still have the body of a 25, or 35 year old? So it just it drives me insane.

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Holly Toscanini: I would rather create a world where no woman is putting her life on hold, waiting to be thinner or younger, or more ready.

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Holly Toscanini: I envision a world where women, especially in midlife, just trust themselves deeply. They learn to live unapologetically, and really lead from their intuition, their inner wisdom, and a sense of undeniable, unshakable self-confidence, regardless what's going on with their bodies.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that I live in overalls. Sometimes I will unhook the straps, so it looks like I'm more presentable.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But I'm wearing overalls.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I have just like come to terms with the fact that my body is what it is.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and I like it.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's not the body I had when I was 20 years old, and, you know, punishing myself every day.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But I'm 65, and I just don't have time for all of this foolishness.

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Holly Toscanini: Exactly, and you know what's what's it's important to me. Because I started my coaching career as a wellness coach. I've been a certified wellness coach. For decades.

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Holly Toscanini: I worked in the medical weight management system with a hospital and with doctors in private practice for a combined god. 15 years my sole purpose for so long was to quote unquote, teach people how to change their lifestyle so they could live in thinner bodies, and that always came with restrictive diets, restricting certain macronutrients and prescription medications.

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Holly Toscanini: and what I saw was over and over again. People would go through the system. Most of them would be fairly successful, and within a year they'd be back. Having regained the weight, feeling like failures, feeling like they did something wrong, and none of that was really true. It's the system that set up. It was set up to fail them. It's a great business model weight loss, because it's repeat clients forever, right? So no matter what you do, you're always going to have more people coming to you, for that

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Holly Toscanini: fairy tale of perfect body equals perfect life. And I think you know, at this point in our lives, we've realized that maybe that's not true. And there's got to be more than just being a certain size.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: If you look at at pictures through history of women.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: older women are always heavier, if they have the means for good nutrition.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it's just a fact of life. You are going to gain weight.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's it's

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: part of of who we are, and to try to be really thin when you're older is a recipe for disaster.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Honestly, because you're gonna have brittle bones, and you might look good. But, girl, you're not healthy. Your body, your body hormones change. They change for a reason.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah.

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Holly Toscanini: well, and it's hard enough being a woman going into the medical system, especially a middle aged woman, because they're always going to tell you. You need to. 1st of all, believe any symptoms you have. They're not going to believe any type of pain that you report. Everything's in your head, and the 1st remedy is always go. Lose some weight and come back and let's look at it again, no matter what your issue seems to be. That seems to be the prescription. 1st lose weight, then come back because a they know you're probably never going to be able to lose the weight, and they're going to blame every symptom you have

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Holly Toscanini: on being in a bigger body, whether you're slightly overweight or you have a lot a lot more weight.

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Holly Toscanini: It really doesn't matter. I really do subscribe to the health at every size philosophy. I think that organization is fantastic, and if you can find a health at every size, doctor, your life is going to be so much easier.

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Holly Toscanini: but trying to force ourselves into a mold that we were never meant to be in is

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Holly Toscanini: is a waste of time. It's it's just pure futility.

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Holly Toscanini: being in a place in your life where you feel comfortable in your body wherever that body might be on the continuum of, you know, smaller bodies to bigger bodies. But being able to say, This is me.

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Holly Toscanini: this is who I am. My lifestyle is healthy, and it supports this body so I can now release all of the energy I was using to try to change my body. And I have that energy now to be able to do other things with my life. And I think that's the whole secret of patriarchy and diet culture is they keep women trapped in this cycle of self hate.

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Holly Toscanini: and they keep us distracted from doing the things in our life that really matter, from going out into the world, taking up space and really changing the things that we want to change and being who we need to be.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's a whole thing of control, you know. If if they can have us

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: worrying and comparing and feeling like we're not enough, then we're not going to stand up and and solve the problems that really need to be solved. And women are good at solving problems. Men

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: are good at getting things done.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you know. It's just the whole masculine feminine

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: essence that we all have men and women, and you know it's not the guy's faults. I'm not one of those people that blames men for everything. It's a system that we've been trained to accept over the years which is broken, and it hurts men as well as women, because it forces men into having to live their lives in a way that really

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: shortens their lifespan because they're they're supposed to do certain things, whereas

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: women are are like chained down, and and their their creative genius is like discounted when really, if we could just embrace everybody being who they are and what they're here to share, and everybody have the ability to share their expertise

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and live in that God. The world would be such a better place.

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Holly Toscanini: It absolutely would. And you know what I'm I'm not.

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Holly Toscanini: I'm not here to preach feminism, although I am a feminist, and I do love men, I mean. So it's not like, I'm a man hater. I love men, and I think that we all have the essence of masculine and feminine within us. Right? I mean, that's kind of what makes us such magical beings is that we do have both of these

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Holly Toscanini: kind of spiritual essences to us. But women have been taught to not trust ourselves, our entire lives. We have been taught to seek external validation, to be people, pleasers, to have no boundaries, to say yes to everything, to try to do everything perfectly, or it's not going to be accepted. And that really does put us into a box that's hard to get out of.

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Holly Toscanini: especially when you're in midlife. At this point in our lives we have so much wisdom, and if we discount that wisdom, and if we don't really learn to trust our our higher selves, our higher wisdom, our intuition, it can make everything so much more difficult and so just. Beginning with

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Holly Toscanini: some simple practices, to be able to reconnect with your intuition, to really reawaken, that in you, and be able to practice trusting yourself, builds confidence in a way that no other sort of self-help program can you really want to start with

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Holly Toscanini: intuition and trust and just practice that? And once you reconnect to that sense of self, and be willing to trust whatever it is that your intuition or your higher self is telling you. All of your decisions in life become so much easier because you're not always second guessing yourself.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Do you have some like tips for people in terms of?

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I remember when I 1st started, like trying to trust my intuition, and it's a sense we all have. It's not like something supernatural that only a few people

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: can tap into. It's just that we've been taught for so many years to ignore it.

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Holly Toscanini: Absolutely.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: How do you encourage people to like?

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Start the initial like?

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Just give it a try next time you.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah, actually.

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Holly Toscanini: yeah. You know, one of the free guides that I have. I have a few on my website, but one of them is called activate your intuition. And it's all about reconnecting to your higher self. It's all about reconnecting to that trust. And the 3 really basic pieces of this are about getting honest kind of figuring out where that block is and

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Holly Toscanini: why it's there, you know. Where did this come from? Where did this idea that I can't trust myself, come from, and then get really clear and reconnect with that on a level of trust, and that can be done through a series of exercises that I have in the Guide that really help you

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Holly Toscanini: practice trusting yourself again, and some of them are

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Holly Toscanini: a lot of the times when we talk about self-help stuff they can get very complicated, and I'm all about distilling it to its essence. Let's get to the basics. Let's write some questions. Let's get into a quiet, peaceful state, and then let's do some free writing. Get out your journal. I'm a huge fan of journals. I've written some that I have on Amazon, but I use them every single day.

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Holly Toscanini: asking a question, getting peaceful with yourself, and then just open yourself up to whatever information comes through, and don't worry about it being correct. Don't worry about it being something you have to take action on. We're just talking, but opening up that channel. To listen to what your higher self is trying to tell you is so critical practice doing that practice, just writing your answers, and when you're done, close the journal, put it away. Come back in a few hours or a couple of days, and read what you wrote. The more you do it. The more

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Holly Toscanini: linkedin to your wisdom you're gonna get. And the more

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Holly Toscanini: rust you're gonna have, the easier it's gonna be to just on the fly. Someone will say something, and you'll get a gut hit, and you'll go. Yes, that's for me or no, that's not for me, and you won't have to

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Holly Toscanini: keep going back and worrying about. Did I make the right decision? You'll just know, and you'll be able to move on. So reconnecting with yourself really starts with this series of very simple journaling questions that we ask to get honest to get clear. And then, really, my big thing is now that you've got this information, let's do something with it. So you got to get moving. You've got to be prompted to take some aligned intuitive action and start trusting yourself more often.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And it for me. It can be as simple as going into the grocery store and looking at food

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and testing it. Yeah, just

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: is this going to be for me? Doing things intentionally, I think, is is helpful in our lives, and

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you can do it with things you already know. The answer to intellectually. It just

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: pay attention to how your gut feels, not your head, your gut, and if you're standing there for a few minutes, you know. Put chips in your cart and an apple.

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Holly Toscanini: That's balanced attrition.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Totally. I'm cheese and doritos.

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Holly Toscanini: I brought that up because part of the training I went through to kind of get to where I am was doing a body image and intuitive eating training, and

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Holly Toscanini: one of the most interesting processes I went through was learning to be at peace with my body, just accepting where I am. I'm going to get bigger. I'm going to get smaller. And just that's life, right? I'm not going to be exactly the same all the time. And that's okay in the intuitive eating piece. It really does trust you to, or teach you rather to listen to what your body is telling you, and be able to distill

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Holly Toscanini: sort of emotional needs from physical needs. But it also gives you permission to get the donut. If you want the donut right, it's not about never eating anything, because it's an emotional eating situation. We eat emotionally because it works. It does help comfort us. It does help make us feel better. And when we learn to listen to our intuition, we understand that that's not going to be our life all the time.

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Holly Toscanini: Sometimes you need to eat the donut. Sometimes you need to eat the cupcake. Sometimes you want the salad or the steak, or whatever it might be for you that feels quote unquote, healthy, I believe healthy is sort of what you make it.

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Holly Toscanini: and being able to differentiate between restricted behavior and intuitive eating is really important, and it leads gracefully into this ability to trust yourself on bigger issues.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I think the yes, it does lead into trusting yourself on bigger issues. And I think we've learned.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I know I'd learned over my lifetime that you're supposed to have. You know, X number of meals a day, and you shouldn't eat between meals and your meal should look like a specific thing on your plate like, you know, protein, a starch and a vegetable. That's how I was raised, and you need to clean your plate.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah, but don't get too fat.

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Holly Toscanini: Right? Don't eat too much, but don't leave anything behind.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah.

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Holly Toscanini: It's like.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Hello!

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And and when you're served food you're often

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you're served proportions, but you're also. You're not in control of what you're going to eat, and something that I've learned recently, because my husband's retired now, and he's home all the time, and it's just the 2 of us, and he eats differently than I eat, and he doesn't like the variety

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: that I like. And sometimes I'm just like all I want is a bowl of ice cream for dinner.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah, and that should not be a bad thing, because you're probably not wanting a bowl of ice cream for dinner every single night. Right?

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, no. I see.

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Holly Toscanini: And it gives you the power to trust yourself to say I'm still hungry, or I've had enough without feeling compelled to restrict your behavior in one way or another. So when I kind of 1st started with intuitive eating, it was

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Holly Toscanini: so liberating to be able to sit down and say, it doesn't matter. I can choose whatever I want to have. I'm not following a plan. I'm not following a program. There are no off limit foods, no good or bad foods, everything is acceptable. And yeah, a lot of people kind of eat the bag of oreos, you know, the 1st few weeks or months, or maybe even the 1st couple of years. But once you realize that there are no off limit foods.

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Holly Toscanini: the the sort of trigger foods that we might have called them before don't exist anymore, because I can have it if I want it, it's not off limits. So if I want to have the ice cream for dinner. I have it for dinner, and then maybe the next night, I have something else. So, being able to free your mind from sort of the the constraints that

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Holly Toscanini: diet culture puts on us is one of the most liberating things you can do when you trust your body, you trust yourself, and when you trust yourself, you are more likely to go out into the world and make decisions about your next chapter, about what's going to be midlife and beyond for you that are made with confidence.

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Holly Toscanini: and they come from a place of integrity. You don't feel like you're trying to please anybody out there but you, and you learn to set boundaries. You learn to say no to things I mean, so it can start with something as simple as just accepting the body you're in and stop

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Holly Toscanini: dieting. I mean, that's powerful enough in someone's life. But then to take that and build on. Wow! I am a woman who can make other decisions for herself. I can trust myself.

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Holly Toscanini: I know that I have the intelligence, the wisdom, the capability of making things happen. I don't have to rely on anybody else. That is real power.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It is real power, and it also allows you to have the freedom to. Instead of saying, I have to eat this

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: back to the ice cream example.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I know that I can have a bowl of ice cream for dinner, but I also know from experience that if I have that bowl of ice cream for dinner. There are going to be consequences.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And because I've been able to just like isolate things that I think I want to have like I drank coffee for a million years of my life, and I realized at 1 point that I don't really like coffee

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: makes me feel bad.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And you know it's really just a milk delivery device, and I choose not to drink pasteurized milk, because I don't think it's good for you. And so it's not good for me. It's just like it might be good for you, but it's not good for me, so I can make decisions based on

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: the consequences that I'm going to experience in my own body, not on whether it's going to make me gain weight or not gain weight or make me, you know, fit in socially, or whatever right it just. It gives you much more freedom when you you take away the have to's and shoulds, and just allow yourself to experience things

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and see what these consequences are in isolation.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah. And I think there's a myth about confidence that we have been

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Holly Toscanini: sold, and it really says that to be confident you have to feel confident in your body, and a lot of women, especially when I was working in the weight loss, industry. That was one of the things they would always say to me is, I just want to feel more confident in my body. Well, girl, you can feel confident in your body right now. You don't have to change the way you look to feel confident it's it's not something you're born with. It's a skill, right? I mean, everybody

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Holly Toscanini: has confidence, just like everybody has intuition. It's suppressed throughout our lives, and we're told. The only way we can feel good about ourselves is if we look a specific way, and when you let go of that idea that confidence is a size, it really does give you the power to be more confident in every area of your life, and that confidence isn't dependent on

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Holly Toscanini: some external factor. My confidence isn't dependent on the size of my clothes. It isn't dependent on the bank account I have. It isn't dependent on whether or not I'm in a relationship. I mean, it's confidence that is inherent. It is not built on something outside of myself that could change without my permission.

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Holly Toscanini: Right? So when you get that kind of confidence, everything in your life shifts, everything starts to look just a little bit different. And that's really the power of the coaching that I do with women is that we begin to shift the way we see ourselves and the way we see the world, and it gives us the power and the ability to make the changes we want to change and rewrite that next chapter of our lives ourselves. Nobody's dictating it to us. We are the creators.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So powerful, so powerful.

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Holly Toscanini: It certainly can be. And you know it's it's it's freedom, and it is really being able to live from a place of integrity and authenticity, and I think so many of us have those as core values. But we're just not sure how to make those come to fruition. We're not sure how to live those things in our lives, and it can be as simple as just realizing you can be confident, no matter what size you are, no matter if you have wrinkles or not, no matter if you've got gray, squirrely hair, which I have kind of squirrely hair.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I loved your book.

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Holly Toscanini: It doesn't matter right. All of those things don't matter. It's really who you are and how you show up in the world, and how you treat people. That's what's important and how you let people treat you.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Core values and Boundaries.

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Holly Toscanini: Yes, ma'am, very important.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And so many people don't even know what their core values are.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah. Yeah. And and it's it's not always the easiest exercise to do even differentiating between. You know what what my values are and maybe what my mission is. You know those be very different things for people.

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Holly Toscanini: when I think about kind of my mission, my mission is really empowering women especially. You know those in midlife to stop waiting for permission to start living fully and reconnect with their intuition. And we do this by cultivating that unshakable self, trust and confidence, and then just showing up in your life, no matter what you look like, no matter what your age is, or no matter what has happened to you in the past

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Holly Toscanini: that doesn't have to define you. It can inform who you've become, but it doesn't have to define you.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It doesn't have to define who you are becoming.

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Holly Toscanini: Exactly.

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Holly Toscanini: I mean, imagine a world where no woman puts her life on hold waiting to be something. She's not thinner, younger, wealthier in a better relationship whatever.

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Holly Toscanini: where we trust ourselves deeply, we live unapologetically, and we really lead from this place of intuition, wisdom, and confidence. I think that would be one of the most powerful shifts. Kind of going back to your original question. That is really one of the most powerful things we can do. A whole movement of women who are ready to stop shrinking to fit the expectations that people put on us, and really expand into the truest version of ourselves, and

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Holly Toscanini: claiming that joy, that power, and the purpose in every chapter of our lives.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And how much.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: how much would help the men in our lives if we just stepped up and were the people we're supposed to be, instead of waiting on them for

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: defining our lives for us.

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Holly Toscanini: Or saving us right? I mean, I think so. Many young women, especially in our age range, grew up on fairy tales, and all the fairy tales were, the damsel is saved by the Prince right?

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Holly Toscanini: I don't want to wait to be saved. I'm 58 years old. I'm tired of waiting. I'm gonna save myself. It's time.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Your own damn hero.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So how do you do your coaching? Is it in groups, one on one.

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Holly Toscanini: I can do one on one. I did that for many, many years, especially when I was doing weight loss, coaching. I do some spiritual coaching on the side. I have a few people that I do some small groups with, but I am in the process of launching my new signature group program called the Reinvention Code. And it's going to start this fall. The tentative date is September. So I keep people posted. It's really an invitation to stop second guessing yourself

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Holly Toscanini: and start rewriting the rules of your next chapter, whatever that might be. So if you've been putting off your dreams.

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Holly Toscanini: if you've been playing small or waiting for the right time to feel confident, worthy, or even clear on what's next for you. This program is for you. It's really a transformational group coaching experience that's designed for women who are sort of done with the waiting game, and they're ready to trust themselves. They're ready to speak up.

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Holly Toscanini: and they really want to live intuitively, boldly, and unapologetically. So in the program I have a step by step, framework for rebuilding radical self trust.

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Holly Toscanini: There's coaching, there's connection, and there's community. So there's no mean girl energy in my groups ever at all. We're only there to support each other. And then I provide tools to help you stop overthinking and start acting from your intuition, and there's always support there to reclaim your time, your energy, and your voice, because so many of us feel like we can't speak up anymore. So

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Holly Toscanini: I don't think your next chapter starts when you're ready. I think it, or when you're perfect, I think it starts when you're ready. So it's time to kind of set aside, waiting for the perfect moment and just dive in and start creating the life you want now. So I can provide a link for the waiting list. Or if people are interested, they can always go to my website and find out more.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's perfect. And so you do offer and activate your intuition. 3 steps to reclaiming your inner wisdom. So let's talk about that for a second, and then we're going to talk about the other piece that you.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah, yeah. So activate your intuition is a free ebook that I have out. And it really is an opportunity for women to begin the process of reconnecting with your intuition. So many of us have had experiences in our lives. I can.

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Holly Toscanini: I would bet almost every single woman has had one of those moments where they either

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Holly Toscanini: got a gut feeling about something and acted on it, and then discounted their intuition. Because, oh, it you know, what difference did it make? Or they've had a gut reaction to something and ignored it, and then regretted not listening to themselves. In the 1st place. So we've all had that moment, you know, if you have kids, there's always been that intuitive moment where you know something is up. That's just your intuition, that's all it is. And when you can start

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Holly Toscanini: learning to use your intuition as sort of your inner GPS to guide you through making decisions. And I mean simple day to day decisions like we were talking being in the grocery store. Do I want this, or do I want that?

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Holly Toscanini: What direction do I want to take to get to work. I mean, there's always that time when you're like, I think I'm gonna go a different way, and you may not know why. And it may not end up being a significant thing. But you never know what would have happened. Did you not trusted your instinct? I hope that was clear, it felt a little jumbled. But my point is, we teach you to reconnect with that part of yourself that knows, and when you can trust your inner knowing everything gets a little clearer.

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Holly Toscanini: So in the guide there are some 3 basic steps that you can go through. They're very simple. It's an easy thing to get through in even an hour or so. And then I always have more free resources on my website for people who are ready to sort of dip their toe in the water, but they're maybe not a hundred percent ready to take the coaching dive.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'm laughing because I just had this experience this week. It's like I did something on Monday, and I knew at the time this was a bad idea.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and I was right, did it, anyway, that was just like.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And so

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I ended up having to. It had to do with another person, and we were in a hurry, and I just knew it was just like, you just know when you know, and I remember it because I knew the next day when the problem happened. Because that's what that I knew where it started.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It was just like knew this was going to be a bad idea. And that was right.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Just, you know, proof that your intuition is? Is there for a reason and and.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Good idea to listen, but.

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Holly Toscanini: Absolutely well. And one of the things, too, about this book is when you reconnect with your intuition, you're able to unlock sort of 3 really important aspects of wellness. One is spiritual wellness, which is really just a sense of peace, purpose, and connection with yourself and the world around you.

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Holly Toscanini: You also reconnect with emotional resilience which is the ability to handle life's challenges with strength and grace. And you reconnect with self-trust which is really basically just confidence in your ability to make decisions that honor your true self. And those are the 3 things that this guide really focuses on.

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Holly Toscanini: Each chapter has some practical advice, some personal stories and actionable steps. And really the goal isn't to overwhelm you, but to inspire those small, meaningful changes that can help you reconnect with yourself.

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Holly Toscanini: So the the ebook is easy to get through. It's a simple read, and there's some, you know, good sort of journaling things in there.

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Holly Toscanini: I had a great time creating it, and I hope everybody has a really wonderful, meaningful experience as they go through it. And the good thing is, you can always email me if you have questions because I love to talk about it. So DM, me, you can email me. I'm happy to answer any questions patients, people have.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that. And the other thing that you're offering is meditations for the feminine, for feminine reawakening meditations, for feminine reawakening.

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Holly Toscanini: Yes, so the meditations for feminine reawakening are really a series of meditations that I created to help women begin the process of reconnecting with themselves. It's a collection of short, transformative meditations that are designed to help you reconnect with your intuition, really begin to step into your power and embrace your most authentic self. It's sort of a

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Holly Toscanini: a tool for self discovery and empowerment. But it's basically just some practical steps to help you integrate these meditations into your daily life. And what I really love about this product is that

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Holly Toscanini: each meditation comes with a very simple ritual, and I've also included what I call crystal companion. So for those of you that are into crystals kind of like I am. I have a ton of them in my office. I think they're fabulous. Each meditation has a specific crystal that you could use for sort of energy and focus. So you get the meditations. You get the ritual that you can do with the meditation and a suggested crystal that will help enhance your experience with that meditation.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that I love crystals.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah, how can you? Not? They're pretty, but I found them to be pretty powerful in my life. So really, when you use.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Very powerful.

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Holly Toscanini: Yeah, when you use this guide, it teaches you how to create a sacred space. Even if you have a very small area, it helps you choose which meditation is going to be best for you, and you certainly don't have to do them all. You might really resonate with only one or 2, and then it teaches you how to use the crystal pairings and how to incorporate the ritual. And then, as always, I suggest journaling about kind of what you got out of that experience.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Journaling is such an amazing thing. It's

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love going back and looking at the progress, because you forget, we forget from day to day. How amazing the things were yesterday. And

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: but you know, when you go to bed at night, even if you think about the things you're grateful for tomorrow. It's like a whole new slate, and.

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Holly Toscanini: And that search again.

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Holly Toscanini: I think it's great as you go back through your journals, and maybe this is just me, but I doubt it.

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Holly Toscanini: I found so many of the same things were coming up the same themes over and over and over again that I never could get over. Maybe it was lose 10 pounds. Maybe it was exercising. Maybe it was, you know, Redo, my resume, or whatever it is. But there would be a theme running through the whole thing of

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Holly Toscanini: at least one item I was I had to take care of, and never did. So. I think journaling really does expose sort of where our blocks are, in addition to where we have evolved and grown and changed. So, yeah, I think journaling is is pretty powerful.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Okay. So mine's lose 10 pounds, too.

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Holly Toscanini: Most women I know.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah.

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Holly Toscanini: Same thing.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I think I'm going to work on just accepting the 10 pounds as a gift.

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Holly Toscanini: Yep, I love your body's always gonna change. Stop trying to fight it right.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, I it's just too much work.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Just not. I'm just not interested in that anymore.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Anyway, I have really enjoyed this conversation. Holly. Thank you so much for joining me today.

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Holly Toscanini: Me, too. Thank you for the invitation. You are a lovely person inside and out, and I had such a great time today. Thank you.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Thank you and thank you all for joining us today to learn more about Holly and her activation and meditation. Please visit her website@www.hollytuscanini.com. That's TOSC. A, nini.com, and we will be sure to put those links in the show notes below.

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