In today’s fast-paced world, many of us struggle to find meaning and authenticity. Debbie Harrell, a life coach at Live More Aligned, invites us to question the “normal” we're conditioned to accept and redefine it on our terms. Through her journey and coaching approach, Debbie shares how slowing down, tuning into our values, and embracing intentionality can lead to a life of joy and purpose.
Finding Purpose Amidst Change
Debbie’s journey as a coach began in 2019, after years of feeling overwhelmed by life’s challenges. She ignored her need for rest until a friend suggested taking time off work. For Debbie, this break led to self-reflection, challenging the belief that one’s worth is tied solely to productivity. In early 2020, as the world slowed down due to the pandemic, Debbie saw an opportunity for transformation. Realizing the “normal” life wasn’t ideal for many, she began exploring what a “New World Normal” could look like.
Questioning the “Old Normal”
As people grappled with a “new normal,” Debbie questioned whether the “old normal” had ever truly served us. Many accepted routines and values that prioritized productivity over well-being, which she felt led to disconnection and burnout. This realization fueled Debbie's desire to help others create a life they genuinely value, one that aligns with their personal beliefs and well-being, rather than societal expectations.
Tuning In and Giving Yourself Permission
Debbie encourages her clients to slow down, reflect on their desires, and ask, “What do I truly want?” Many of us are so focused on achieving and doing that we seldom consider our core values and life goals. By slowing down, we create space to reflect on what brings joy and fulfillment. Giving ourselves permission to question, rest, and choose a path aligned with our values is a radical but essential act for self-empowerment.
Living Intentionally and Redefining Success
Intentional living is at the heart of Debbie’s coaching. She emphasizes the importance of choosing quality experiences and connections over accumulating material possessions. Living intentionally means considering the impact of our choices on ourselves, others, and the environment. Whether it’s reducing waste, selecting meaningful experiences over physical gifts, or embracing minimalist principles, intentionality allows us to live in harmony with our values.
Building Community and Connection
Debbie’s work isn’t just about individual growth; it’s about building a supportive community. Through her podcast, “New World Normal,” and her membership offerings, she connects like-minded individuals committed to intentional living. From workshops and book clubs to “Dream and Plan Sundays,” Debbie creates spaces where people can set goals, align with their values, and find support from others on the same journey.
Moving Beyond Traditional Coaching Models
Debbie’s approach to coaching adapts to her and her clients' needs. Initially, she offered a traditional 12-week program, but she found that large group launches weren’t suited to her personality. Now, Debbie offers flexibility with both group and one-on-one coaching options, allowing her to connect deeply with each client. She’s also passionate about using new and full moon cycles for goal-setting and introspection, adding a “woo-woo” touch that resonates with those open to a holistic approach.
The Importance of Clarity and Self-Understanding
Debbie believes that clarity around one’s core values is essential to living a fulfilling life. Without clear values, many drift through life, following societal expectations rather than their desires. Debbie encourages her clients to explore what makes them happy and understand what “success” and “normal” look like for them personally. This clarity makes decision-making easier, as choices can be evaluated based on alignment with one’s values and life goals.
Reclaiming Life in Midlife and Beyond
For many, midlife is a period of reflection, a time to question past decisions and create a future aligned with who they are today. Debbie’s clients, many of whom are navigating midlife, are learning to live with intention rather than simply following old patterns. She provides tools to support this transition, helping them shed past conditioning and embrace a future of authenticity and purpose.
Join the Journey
Debbie Harrell’s work invites us to step off the autopilot and choose a path that brings joy and alignment. Through self-reflection, intentional choices, and a supportive community, we can redefine normal on our terms. As Debbie reminds us, it's never too late to slow down, reconnect, and create a life you genuinely love.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Hi and welcome to the You World order showcase. Podcast I'm your host, Jill Hart. And today with us is Debbie Harrell. She is a life coach for humans questioning normal so they can show up authentically and intentionally and live a life of joy and purpose. Welcome to the show, Debbie.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Thank you, Jill. Happy to be here.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: So we were talking about all the normal things in life trash trucks, trains.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: How did you get started doing what you're doing?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Why did you get started doing what you're doing?
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, it's funny. I
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: 2,019.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, actually, several years prior to 2,019, I had some life stuff happening, you know that I was
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: very
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I don't know if it was intentionally, but I was ignoring it like, Oh, yeah, all this crazy stuff is happening. But I'm fine, it's fine, everything's fine.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And then, I explained, the end of 2,019 is kind of a slow stumble, like I was still standing upright, but I was about ready to to fall flat on my face, and I had a friend. Tell me.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: you know, Debbie, I've taken time off work for far less than what you've got going on. And I was like.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Wait, what? Come again like we can take time off work for ourselves. That's a thing.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Who knew.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: So.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: yeah, who knew exactly. So I I talked to my doctor, and she's like, Oh, yeah, you definitely should probably take some time off, so got some time off from work.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Which spun me in a whole different direction, right? Because I am a
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: a good employee, a good little capitalist, and I'm not worthy unless I'm producing something. And all this
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: introspection and working on myself isn't really producing anything. At least I didn't think so at the time.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: so there was a fair amount of
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: of not being very nice to myself in that process.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: But as I was getting comfortable with the idea.
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::reAligned: We're now in early:24
::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Cue a worldwide pandemic. And now everybody is slowing down and
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and freaking out. And I was like, Oh, wait, wait, guys, it's not that scary. It's not that bad. It's actually kind of fun.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I'm ahead of the curve.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: We could, we could learn learn about ourselves like, Come on, come in! The water's fine, that kind of thing. And and then I was quickly fascinated with this experience. We were all having the fact that it was this worldwide thing. And what's going on. And
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: everyone's freaking out about this quote unquote, new, normal, how terrible it is and how it's here to stay. And I was like.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: really, guys, was the old normal
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: all that great like it we were.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: We were struggling with some pretty significant issues prior to this pandemic. So hmm
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: don't we have some say in what our normal is
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: like.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: So I was on a walk with a friend one day. And I was like, you know what? I'm gonna start, a podcast and I'm gonna start. I'll call it New World normal.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And at the time I had no idea where it was going to go or what it was going to do. But I wanted to talk about this idea of normal. And I wanted to talk about personal responsibility. And I wanted to talk about
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: creating a more. You know holistic, inclusive, environmentally friendly existence for us all. And
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: so yeah, that's how I got started.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Love that it kind of dovetails with how I got started doing my podcast and they're both takeoffs of the new World order, which
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I I'm sure we can both agree is like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: dystopian, and we don't want to have anything to do with it. We don't want that to be normal.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: That
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: normal normal doesn't have to be the thing that we all were raised with. Where you
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: go to school. You're a good little student.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: You get A's, because only you know, yucky people get anything less than an a you're not like the best, and we're encouraged to value greed, which
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I I listened to stossel. I forget his 1st name. He did
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: a presentation. It was a TV show. Even it was on Youtube. My daughter was encouraged to watch it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: because the pandemic, like shined a light on all these things out there that were just broken.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I don't know any other way to put it, but the school systems are broken. Government's broken judicial system is broken. It's just like it's all broken.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: That was normal. And we were comfortable with it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: but the we're just trained to value things that really weren't
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: productive. For people like, you know, women and men, we have different bodies. Our bodies require different cycles in order for us to function comfortably in life.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: the the whole patriarchal capitalism. Be a good little slave, and go to work and pay for all the crap that you don't really need
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: pay, you know, thousands of dollars each month for a car that
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: you can spend hours in, because it takes forever to get to and from work, and never mind the environmental damage, all that's causing, but
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: it just like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: slowing down.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: allowing yourself to come into alignment with who you are and how your body functions
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: cause. I don't know about you, but I I am past the change, but I still have
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: long cycles sometimes during the month. I am like really super productive. Other times I'm like, just leave me a hell alone. I'm gonna hole up here in the corner, and I don't wanna talk to anybody.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Not that I'm mad or anything. It's just. That's just how I am.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: no. And
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and that's
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: should be considered normal. Right? We don't. We don't want to, or we're we're conditioned not to see that as normal. But
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: it 100% is, I know,
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: even you're talking about men and women's bodies being different.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: The all we know, all the medical studies are mainly done on men so like. No wonder they can never figure out what's going on with the female body, because they don't ever study it.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: But then the idea of us
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: slowing down
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: giving we have to give ourselves permission to do that 1st right in my story. It took a friend giving me the permission. And then I was like, Oh, wow, yeah, yeah, I can do that.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And I find that comes up for me more and more like.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I'm going to give myself permission to think about this differently. Look at it differently, possibly do things differently.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And the 1st thing that I feel like people should give themselves. Permission to do is do what you just said. Slow down and tune in
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: because we we don't ever even think about doing this, my, I was talking to a friend and I and it's come up with clients many times.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, what do you want from life? What what do you want?
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, I don't know.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: you know, like people don't even know. Well, I can. Chances are pretty slim of you getting
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: to where you want to go if you have no idea where you want to go. So, taking some time to figure that out,
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: doesn't have to be exact, but just an idea I know for me when I 1st started it felt so foreign and so uncomfortable. I had no idea.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: So I started identifying the things I didn't want.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: you know you were talking a little bit before we hit record, but like
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I don't want to live in a world full of violence.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I don't want to live in a dirty environment, you know. I want to live someplace where there's clean air
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and clean water.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: So how am I showing up every day to contribute to that kind of world.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: So that's where it started for me. And then.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: slowly but surely, as you learn more about yourself, you and you're paying attention because it takes paying attention. And that's where getting intentional shows up.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, how am I showing up? What are the decisions I'm making? And how is that impacting? Not just my life, but the world around me.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And and it takes being intentional turning off the autopilot and thinking about it.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: which we're not often.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: We don't often give ourselves the time to do that because we're conditioned. We have to keep going, going, going. So I say a lot, you know, in a world of more, more, or that glorifies more more. What if you did less? You know, what did that? What would that look like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: And giving yourself permission to have less.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: You know I I don't like that term. That was banner around. You'll you'll have nothing, and you'll love it
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: well.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: in some ways
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: it's a very evil thought, because I I think the way that it was presented was in that
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: we're going to have everything, and you'll have nothing
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: versus.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: There's plenty enough to go around. Only take what you need.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Versus.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: You know you have to accumulate all this crap
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: that you know when you die, somebody's going to have to throw it all out.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: because let's face it. That's what happens. They're not going to want your crap. They're gathering crap of their own.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yes, exactly. And and and that
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: plays into that intentional living
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: right like the ideas you have like, I, I want
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: to be friendly to the environment.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: So I'm not going to go buy that party favor that's made out of plastic that's going to end up in a landfill in 2 weeks.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: you know, look for quality products that are going to
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: be used over and over and over again when you're buying gifts.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Maybe by an experience.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: you know, as opposed to
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: some Tchotchke, that they don't really want.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I live in a resort town.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and so I get frustrated seeing people buy the Tchotchkes like your friends don't want the Tchotchkes like don't do it like.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And also it's a small community. And at our grocery store
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: they would run specials like, buy 3, get one free.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, I'm sorry if my neighbor buys 3 and gets one free, you know, and if 10 of my neighbors do that now, there's none left for me.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and really we all only needed one of the thing.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: But you forced us to buy more so that we get this savings.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: So I get super annoyed with retailers and grocery stores. Why don't you just give me
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: a a you know, a decent price all the time, and don't make me jump through these hoops.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Don't make me jump through these hoops of like
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: buying 3. Get one free or download this app and cut out this thing and send this email like.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: So, oh, and like, don't get me started on the Kohl's cash of it all like no, I literally won't shop at Kohl's just because they do that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yeah.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: You see, I don't shop much, but I'm like I'm not going there because they do that cash thing, and I'm like,
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I'm not a shopper either, and we have one grocery store in our town, and they do the same thing. And I
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I'm I'm always when I see those big sales they have case lot sales twice a year. Also cause we live in a
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: a community that believes in
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: hoarding
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: for lack of a better word.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Though I do believe in being prepared, there's prepared, and then there's ridiculous
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: so, and and most of the ridiculous goes in the landfill because you're never gonna eat it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: People don't know how to do food storage in a way that that cycles through the foods that you're buying. They just buy a whole bunch of food and think it's going to last forever.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Trust me, it doesn't.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I forgot where I was going with.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: We can get up, get on soapbox, and fired up on our tangents for sure.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: You know.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: That's 1 thing that I I got intentional about is not having any food waste in my house
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: is like eating everything in my refrigerator before I went and got more. It's eye opening. It's hard to do
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: at first.st I'm getting much better at it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Husband and I are the same way. I was going around the I waiting for the price to go up.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: or the packaging to get smaller, because that always happens right after they do the buy 4. Now.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: to get this special savings of 50 cents.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: So wasting. Food is like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: there's so many things. But you need to learn how to cook people that don't know how to cook or recycle food.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: They struggle with
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: food, waste.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yeah, people that are adverse to leftovers, which is mind boggling, because that's my favorite thing is put all the leftovers in one meal, and.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Word.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: We do that a lot. And and I, I recycle things that I make like. I I make some kinds of soups that can be turned into a pot pie later, because it stretches the the leftovers, and if you're only cooking for one or 2 people, it makes
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: it. It makes it more challenging to use up all the all of the food that you're
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: you're bringing in.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: But it's possible.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Just gotta try. Gotta be intentional.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: You do have to be intentional. You need to be intentional when you're buying the food, too, like you don't.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: You don't need to buy 4 of everything you know.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Pay the extra 50 cents, just get one.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: If you're only gonna use one. It really isn't saving you any money, and it's just taking up space in your house and making you feel
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: it makes me feel nervous when I've got a lot of crap around me.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and I live in a small space, and so I don't want a whole bunch of stuff.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yeah.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I just had to downsize from a 3 bedroom to a
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: very small one bedroom with no storage. So it's been a challenge. And I'm
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: continuing. I just say the purge continues.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: keep downsizing, getting rid of stuff.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Sometimes it's hard because I'm tend to be sentimental, but
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I'm getting better.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: You know, I
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: if you're not using things or you don't really
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: want them, there's there isn't any need anymore to keep it around
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: right.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I say that. But I I look at my daughter. She just moved into a a 10 by 13
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: That's her whole apartment, including a bathroom and a kitchen.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Wow!
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: That's some tiny, living.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Some tiny living, but she is so happy, built her a loft bed so she's she has. She has all the floor space
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: to use. But,
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: you have to be really intentional when you live in that kind of.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, and I feel like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Space.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yeah, well, and I like to think I'm getting much better at
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: not just the purge. What's going out, but
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: about what I'm bringing back in.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: you know. Do I really need that new pair of jeans? Do? And and it's so funny because this is way back. When my son was probably about 5,
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: you know wisdom of of children.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: We were at a store, and he was in the shopping cart, and I was looking at this blouse, deciding if I wanted to buy it. He's like, mama. If you buy that, you're just going to have more laundry to do.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I was like, Oh, my gosh, you're right. I think I'll put it back.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: so yeah, do I really need that thing?
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: how long is it going to last? And you know. Is it going to end up in a landfill, and is it going to degrade if it ends up in a landfill like lots of things that goes into it. But and and that's where the tuning in, because that way of living might not be important to somebody else.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: But you don't know that until you tune in and decide what's important to you.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And I used to be a super indecisive person.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I can't say that I'm I'm completely cured of that.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: But it is easier when you are clear on what your values are and the kind of life you want to live, and the kind of world you want to live in.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: you can run it through all those filters. Well, is this
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: decision taking me closer to those ideas or further away? Okay, decision made.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: You know
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yes, it helps when you slow down enough to understand what your own core values are. So many people don't really even know what their core values are so they're just kind of like ping, pauling, ping, pong balling through life. And you know oh, that sounds really good. Oh, no, that sounds really good. Oh, maybe this will work, and it's the frantic search for happiness when they don't even realize what happiness looks like to them.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: And I think normal should be, you should be able to be you.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: you should at the very least, like you.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: -
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: There are many people that don't like themselves. They may say they do, but they really don't.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, and I feel like when you dig down, there's there's gonna be aspects that you don't like, that's that's common, like. There's things about me that I don't necessarily like, but I don't just say like.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Oh, that's how I am. Deal with it like I
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: recognize it, I honor it, and
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I'd make a decision. Am I going to work on that?
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Or, you know, am I going to accept it the way it is?
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: but we're we are not often
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: to tune in
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and take that time. In fact, we're probably conditioned to do otherwise like.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: No, you don't have time for that. You've got to do this over here.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: You've got to go to work. You've got to do this. You've got to do all the things that they say is what you should be doing right now.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Which
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: often doesn't lead, especially if you have kids. You're busy raising kids, and you're going to all the Pta meetings, and all the sporting events, and all the like. Yes, it is a lot
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: how's that working for you? How are you feeling how connected
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: to yourself and your family and community? Are you actually, because when you're so busy doing doing doing.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: there's there's really only time for more superficial
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: because you don't know who you are. So how can you really know who somebody else is, and and make that connection and exchange
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: hopefully? That makes sense.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: It makes total sense. And as women, I I think.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: okay.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: well, I know from my own experience, when I was younger and I had 2 kids and a husband that was gone a lot.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I was expected to be the perfect wife I was supposed to take care of the house, make sure all the bills were paid.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Take care of the kids, raise the kids, make sure that they got to school, make sure they were getting good grades make sure they got to all the things.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and I was expected to have a full-time job
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: just like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: that doesn't work on any level, I'm sure. Why there was so much divorce in the eighties and nineties is because, you know, people were recognizing
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: this. This is not sustainable.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: No, no woman can do it. No woman can have it. All men can have it all because they have wives.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and they were encouraged to have wives.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, and they're the one.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Go up the ladder, the corporate ladder, unless you had a wife.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yeah, well, that the that they can have it all because they're the ones that created all the systems. Right? So like, yeah, of course, they're gonna create it so that it works for them
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: doesn't really matter
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: that works for other people, because competition was the most important and having more.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: you know, and getting a leg up was more important than you know, lifting other people's up or making sure that we could all succeed and and thrive.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yeah, it was
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: competition at its best. I believe in cooperation where you work on being competing with yourself to be the best you you can be.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and you work with others, and you expect respect what they're good at and value what they're good at, instead of competing with them over it. You don't have to be the best at everything. You just need to be the best at being you and doing the thing that you're here to do
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: rather than trying to like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: that. The whole
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: treadmill of
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: what we considered normal for so long, just like, gives me the Willies.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I? Yeah, I I hear you. I often say, you know, once you see the matrix, you can't unsee it so like there's no going back. You're like I can't. I can't go there.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I don't want to.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I would rather.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: They're bad.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Live in a cave.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: scrounge from my food.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: cook over and open fire. If that was if my choice was, go back to the corporate world.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and all of that grind, or live in a cave in the middle of nowhere, and have to fend for myself, I would pick fend for myself
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: that that's how much I just the idea is just like, no, not that
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: kind of getting older, or just like it was such a terrible experience.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I just I I say, I'm unemployable. There's no way I go back and work for somebody else, because
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I'm too quick to call out the bullshit like.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: No, that doesn't look right like, why are you doing that?
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Don't you kind of feel like you're taking advantage of them by doing that like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yeah, exactly.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I don't really want to do that. But
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and a lot of it was
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: kind of
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: dumb, shuffling papers around, filling out boxes, and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: like from one basket to the next.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I've had existential meltdowns of like when you're driving through a city with all the office buildings. And you think there are people in all those offices, or it used to be before pandemic. Now, nobody's in the office. Everyone's at home but just pushing paper from one side to the other, from one inbox to the next inbox, like analyzing reports, like, what is everybody doing? It's just mind boggling to me like where.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Let me!
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: What?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Oh!
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Playing with their kids, educating their kids.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Sure.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: The experience that life is rather than
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: trapped in a building.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Making some
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: shareholders wealthy. Well, they're barely surviving
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: yeah, that that was
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I. I quickly got into sales after that. And I, I have lots of children, and I have encouraged all my kids, you know, do something that makes you happy and don't.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Don't spend your life like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: just grinding for a dollar. It's not worth it.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yes.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and that takes
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: taking the time to know what makes you happy.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Nice. So you coach people on
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: finding what makes them happy. And how does that look for you
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: or for them?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Groups? Is it one on one?
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yeah, I have a community that's an offshoot of the the podcast that most of the stuff in there is free. It's just a way to connect. We do workshops.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: actually, I've been on kind of a hiatus this year because I had big, grand ideas for this year, but the universe and life had other things planned for me. So
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I'm I'm regrouping now, getting things. Relaunch, just relaunch, my podcast so I'll be rebuilding the community and those offerings. But we do book clubs, workshops.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: just connection, you know. And then I have a small membership.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: the people who want to show up intentionally. We do a thing called Dream and plan Sundays, where we
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: get dreamy about our week ahead
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and actually plan for it
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: goes back to you know you're not going to get where you want to go. If you have no idea where you're trying to get so like, get intentional about the week
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: we also do some like new moon and full moon. A little more woo woo, but
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: because you got to get dreamy and and intentional.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and then I do have an offering for a group program that I loved. It was a 12 week program.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And I offered it last fall was the 1st time, and it was great. I loved it.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: but then quickly realized that doing that traditional model of
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: a launch and bringing a group cohort together
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: really didn't work for my nervous system. So
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I've decided you know what I want to figure out how to deliver that one on one and group.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: so
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: it'll be a little easier on my nervous system, but also support my clients wherever they are, you know, if they want to do it as a group. If you want to do it as one on one.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I have both both ways to support you.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I do believe that the group and community aspect does bring another layer of connecting with other people on the same path.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: So I'm still working that out. But it's coming. After the 1st of the year. I'll be launching a lot of new offerings. Really, just wanted to get the podcast podcast started this year.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: but it's been
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: very rewarding talk about doing something that makes you happy.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Especially since it was so quickly obvious, or it was obvious to me
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: early on
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: that most
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: most of us don't know, because we've never been. I mean, we've said it several times in this conversation. We don't take the time.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: We're not given the permission to take the time. We're not encouraged to take the time.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: We're discouraged. We're conditioned like you don't have time for that. You need to do this over here.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and then we get to midlife or empty nest years, and we're like, what the hell have we been doing all these years?
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: This isn't what I thought it was going to be
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: like. Yes, I've had a great life. But why do I feel like
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: it wasn't my own necessarily.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yeah, I I like the way you phrase that because you look back and you're like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Hmm.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: how did that happen?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: It's kind of like you just got pushed along the stream. And and then suddenly, you're at this point, or maybe it's just because women are reaching midlife now, and they're like, no, I'm done with that old stuff.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I'm taking control of my life, and I'm going to live it the way I want to live it. And if somebody comes along and they want to come with you. That's 1 thing. I've been married for 30 years.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: My husband's great
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: leaves me the hell alone.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: One of the time he he actively works to not make my life more difficult.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: which I'm very grateful to him for, because.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, and you probably do the same for him, too. Right? That's
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: that's a good.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: People that need a lot of space
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: in in our lives, and we live in a small space. But we, we have
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: times when we're together. We walk together every day.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: It's our time together, and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: then we go and do our own things.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: He's retired, and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I'm doing what I do. And
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: it. It's just it works. But it works because it's intentional. It's not like we just showed up one day and decided, Oh, we're gonna
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: we're gonna retire, and I'm gonna continue doing everything for you. He was a truck driver, so I did. When he came home. He was like we waited on him hand and foot.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: did all his laundry, made all his meals. I just like all the things he didn't have to do anything, but now that he's home all the time he has to do stuff.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: you know. I I can't live his life and my life too.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, I think. And I I think that's a norm that also needs questioning. I feel like a lot of couples. Don't recognize that. How much you need that independent
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: autonomy, you know.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I was at a wedding recently.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and they both mentioned that in their vows. And I was like, okay, okay. I see you like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: You have a chance.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Exactly. I didn't want to say that, but
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: You know they talk about, you know
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: 2 people becoming 1, 1 whole. I
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: no, you're 2 people that are standing next to each other. You're not one anything.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And you got to be willing to grow together, you know, and allow allow the other person to grow. Maybe when you're not in a growth phase, but they are like, support them and and
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: don't
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I mean, I'm sure it's gonna be uncomfortable and a little nerve wracking. But
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: trust that you guys are in this together. And then when you're going through your growth phase, they're going to be there to support you and
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and encourage you. So
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I say this, I'm single. But like in theory, I think that's how it's gonna work.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: It does work that way.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I've been married for a long time. I was in serial marriages. My 1st marriage lasted for 13 years, and I was divorced for one week, and I married my current husband, and we've been married for 30 years. I still have
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: relationship with my 1st husband.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: He's a father of my 1st 2 children, and we see him every year, and I'm really proud of the person he's become.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: not the person he was when I left him. But the person he's become is an amazing human being, and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: it's just you've got to allow life
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: to unfold.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: And if it unfolds with you guys together. Great. If it doesn't, it's okay.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Release, you know, catch and release.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I feel that way about relationships. Sometimes. Relationships aren't meant to last like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: forever.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I wanted to. You mentioned the word unfolding, and and we've we've said several times about being intentional showing up for your life, and I do think there is a balance there, right? Because life shifts like I said
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: life had other plans for me this year. I had a definite
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: idea of what I was going to be doing, and I was making decisions to go that. But then everything got derailed. So you gotta have that balance of
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: what you think you're going to do. Hold it loosely, because, you know, life might have other plans for you.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And that's not necessarily a bad thing.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: especially if you're tuned into what your core values are, because you can still stay true to yourself and make those new decisions on the fly. I thought it was going to go like this. But apparently it's going to go like this. So what does that mean? How am I going to redirect regroup stay true to myself
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and my goals and ideas for life.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: So I like to use that unfold.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: In embracing the
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: the new, the mystery as it unfolds, because we can have intentions and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: set to manifest things. But often I've found in manifesting. It doesn't come the way I think it's going to come.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: It rarely does.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Right.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Always get what I set out for an intention.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and I can say that always
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: have lots of lots of experience with this.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: but it never. And I do mean never shows up in the way I think it's going to show up
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: or looking the way I think it's going to look.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Even if I'm really detailed about it, it's it's still. It's still a surprise. And I think that's what makes life so exciting. So no matter what you're doing. It's
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: you have to leave room for life to happen.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Sometimes, I say, leave room for the magic.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yes.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Definitely, hold, hold it loosely.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Those ideas.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: And I like your your community where you're you're doing the the Sunday gratitude, planning ahead
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: it part of part of manifesting and and manifesting is just creating your own life, because
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: what we think about what we focus on what we feel about the situation is what creates our reality for us, and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: when you do it intentionally, but leaving room for the magic
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: you
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and you look back
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: on what's happened the prior week.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and with gratitude
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: even for the things that didn't go the way you expected them to go.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: to be able to find gratitude in those things just sets yourself up for so much more success
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: in the following week, because
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: you you were able to look at the little little things that
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: taken on their own, you might have gotten discouraged over.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: but you can examine them and say, well, but but they allowed this to happen
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: so it might have seemed like a hiccup at the moment, but really it was
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: to set me up for something better.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, it's it's neurological, too. Right? Science backs it up when we oh, yeah, because we're constantly looking for
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: evidence of the beliefs that we have. So if we're always believing in gloom and doom, we're going to find all the evidence that that's all there is. So if we're challenging ourselves to know. Let's look for the
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: the glimmers and the and the hope.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Then we'll get better at finding those. So yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: So.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: yeah, it is totally science. And it's so amazing how much science is coming to the forefront on all of these things that were considered woo for so long.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Move.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: It's it's not it, I think woo is just science that hasn't explained yet.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Well, I did see a tiktok last night. I was. I was. I was, wasn't fully engaged with it. But they were definitely talking about spirit spirituality.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and neuroscience like it being more scientific, and especially when you bring in the idea of quantum.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: the quantum quantum physics.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: So yeah, there's more people talking about that which is fun.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: And I love it because we are all connected. We don't actually exist, and yet we do. We are all.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: We are all part of the entanglement, and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: our thoughts create realities. But each of us has different thoughts. But those different thoughts
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: meld together to create something that's
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: that we experience
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: each of us differently as we continue on with
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: the life
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: path that we're on, and if.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: More of us could just recognize that we are all
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: one
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: together.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yeah.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: It would be a lot easier for us to get someplace all this divisiveness and us and them. And you and I was thinking about this right? Because we just had the World series and everyone's
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: recognizes how
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: ineffective. I don't want to say bad, but like the the Us. Versus them during in political realms like we need to reach across the aisle, and we need to learn how to work together.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: We can see that clearly. But then you watch something like a sporting sporting event where
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: this guy that likes this team. He's not even on that team. He just likes that team is threatening bodily harm to the guy that likes this other team. And it's like
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: hell are you doing? It's literally a baseball game, people. It's not nobody's gonna live or die.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: There's nothing behind it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I mean, these guys that are on these 2 teams. They're from all over the place.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: They're not. It's not like college football or college baseball, or something like that, where you know you're you're defending the honor of your school, which is really what it's all about. Well, that's what sports was supposed to be about. Instead, you've got these money making machines, which is
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: all they are exactly. They're designed to have advertising and charge gobs of money for the advertising, and, you know, don't even get me started.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And it's 1 more way to keep us divided.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yeah.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Right.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: as if politics wasn't enough.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Exactly. Now. We've got baseball, too, or football. We're in football season. Right? Yeah. Jeez.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: My husband loves football, but he doesn't actually like watching the games he just likes sifting through the data.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Oh!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Like that's fine.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Fantasy football leagues. I always thought that was.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: He's he is part of a Fantasy Football League. He joined a Fantasy Football League with some really old friends of his and he! He's such a data nerd. He's figured out how to dominate this game
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: and it it was a really simple thing where he he looks at an offense in a defense, because apparently I don't know anything about fantasy football, but he tries to.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I know we're getting out in the deep waters now.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: There's a way to look at players and or offenses and defenses and pick players off of you know the team that's got the best this but the worst of that, and you mix them together, and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: he just is like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: he's winning all the games because he he figured this thing out. But he's fine.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Joy.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: The man loves spreadsheets.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I mean, there's nothing that makes him happier than a bunch of data that he could stick in a spreadsheet and figure stuff out.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: It's awesome. That's awesome.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: It's so funny because my sister's an accountant, and she's the same way. They both love cars, old eighties, sports cars. They both love spreadsheets. Microsoft invited my sister to go and tell them how to make their spreadsheet excel. Work
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: really well, because she's looks like so good at it.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: That's impressive.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: She lived in Washington. Yeah, she's really impressive. And music, they're both. They love eighties and nineties music. They know all the all the musicians all the songs.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: This is so funny to listen to.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I love music, but definitely more for the feeling like, I love going to concerts.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and feeling that.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: But it's the connection, right? It's that collective soul we're all in this experience together
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and feeling it
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and so swaying. It's it's very ritualistically, I think, about, like, you know, around the campfire, when they were dancing and swaying and chanting and drumming all that kind of stuff.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: The energy.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I feel I feel it like that.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I went and saw the Beach boys a million years ago in the stadium in the Jack Murphy Stadium in San Diego, after a baseball game and the whole. It's a concrete
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: amp theater was. I don't. I don't even know if it exists anymore. But the whole thing was vibrating
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: just from the people stomping their feet, and just like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: the energy, was amazing.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I had a similar experience in at Anaheim Stadium, where the angels play in in California. It was in the eighties, and it was Madonna.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: and the one level you can, and it's concrete, but you can see it flexing. I was like, oh, I'm glad I'm not under that, because that looks scary.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yeah, you don't think of concrete as being able to move, but that I think it's just the energy of the people. Well.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I think it is meant to withstand, especially in California, because we, you know.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yes.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Here, sometimes.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yeah.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: They do.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: It was.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: yeah, just the energy is like so amazing in in different places.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: We've wandered way off.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: We've got covered lots of topics. I didn't expect to, but that was fun. I like it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: So how do? How do people get in touch with you?
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I hang out on Instagram more than I probably should.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: The New World norm.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: And
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: yeah, get on my newsletter. I'm going to be better about sending out a newsletter every. I'm not going to do weekly. I can't. I just can't bring myself to do that, but I will do monthly and then regular updates on different things going on. I do make a point to have a lot of free offerings, because I always want this kind of work to be accessible.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I think it's really important that we're connecting in that way and and lifting each other up
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: whatever way we can.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: So yeah, that's how they get to get in touch with me and also go check out. My podcast.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Okay, I mean, obviously, if they're listening.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Normal.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Podcast yeah.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: they, we both took a plan.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Link to it, does it? Are you on like all the places.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yep, yep, yeah. I just relaunched this week. So pretty excited about. I've got a fun mashup episode. I was like, I think I might do more of those.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: I could just have little snippets from different episodes.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I like that idea.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Not gonna lie.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: So this has been an amazing conversation, Debbie. I've really enjoyed chatting with you.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Been a lot of fun.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: Yeah, what's the one thing you hope the audience takes away from our conversation.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: What's the one thing, narrow it down from all these different things we've talked about. But I I feel like what's been most important to me, and I hope that
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: other people will give themselves permission to do things differently, and and look at their life differently, and especially
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: give themselves permission in a world that glorifies more, more.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: to give themselves permission to do a little less, and to tune in and to get them know themselves.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist & Host of the You World Order Showcase Podcast: I love that. Thanks for joining me today.
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::Debbie Harrell @LiveMoreAligned: Thanks for having me. It was great.